This one's for the guys only please?

Question

Okay guys, I'm 14, I'm a virgin right, and plan to be until I'm married. The only thing is, I want an older guy, who isn't a virgin. The reason is:

1.They're more attractive to me.

2. They'll know how to make s*x for the first time NOT painful...which I'm afraid of.

But on the guys opinion is, is that weird? And would you date a girl who thinks like that?

Answer 1

so many fast lil girls these days. why are you worried about having s*x? your like 4 years younger then me , and u think about s*x more then i do. why dont you put that time of thought in your academic work? you over there lusting about older man....wow smh

Answer 2

its too early for you to think about s*x and marriage...i think.

Answer 3

i think its good that you're holding it off. but i think its not good how you're like planning it.

you should wait until your older to date a guy YOUR age.  

Answer 4

No, I don't think that's weird, and yes -- if I liked a girl who thought like that, I'd date her.

But Dawn's point is a good one -- just because a guy is more 'experienced' doesn't necessarily mean he'll know how to make the first time least painful.  More important is how gentle, patient and understanding he is by nature, and the level of communication and trust between you.

Also, you can help minimize any pain yourself by taking your time approaching this, getting *really* comfortable with the idea of s*x with this guy, and understanding that there's no need for any major fear -- though there can be some pain, it's absolutely natural and normal, and doesn't have to be a major part of the experience.  Understand what's going on, so as to minimize your fear, and relax...and that'll help to minimize any pain.  When the time comes, too, approach it slowly...take the time to get comfortable, and use plenty of foreplay and other means to enhance your closeness to the guy, and your level of relaxation.

You'll be okay...and there's no need to either be afraid, or to rush things.  Only go forward when *you're* ready.

Answer 5

i would but i'd have to like her personality :)

Good Luck :)  

Answer 6

I'm not a guy, but I'd just like to point out that an experienced guy probably can't make first-time s*x any less painful than a virgin. Regardless of experience, it results in breaking of the hymen.

Just make sure there's a lot of trust between you and the guy you lose your virginity to. (:

Answer 7

i would go for the looks.

Answer 8

no i think you are pretty normal especially at your age. i would not mind dating a girl who thinks like that.  

Answer 9

Boys find out your a virgin all the dudes are gonna want you but only for that occasion they'll hump and dump.

I haven't been through that but I'm a virgin too.

I have seen my friends go through that they think its love they do it then guys not in sight no more.

And you are 14 you don't need to go that route.

i know kids 11 and 12 doing it and its horrible by the time they turn 15 there gong round with Aids and we don't need that.

Pretty soon your not gonna find a dude without aids.

Just be careful i know you said not till marriage but a guy is a guy.

They'll say they love you and tell you they don't want to wait till marriage just to get some.