This question is for men and woman but mostly men!! its about p**n?

Question

ok my boy friend keeps watching p**n i told him its cool if he watches it with me but i think its kinda weird to always watch it by yourself i through away all our p**n cause i found out he was watching it while i wasnt around by himself and i caught him serveral times M************* to them and i would see lots of p**n videos under his profile for the computer and it made mad why cant he just wait till i get off work and have me or look at me why does he have to watch s*x from another girl it hurts my feelings and i told him that and he said he would stop but he still sneakly does it i alway find evidence it makes me feel uncomfortable because im kinda out of shape but im working on it and him looking at other females and there bodies make me feel bad its almost like hes cheating mentally on me. and it makes me feel insecure i dont know he wont stop am i enough for him?? is he looking for something else?? is that a sign of a cheating man?? does he love me?? he says he would never cheat on me !! please help share your advice thanks...

Answer 1

I think that if my girlfriend wanted to watch p**n with me I could wait, but this has nothing to do with you.  He is just very visual but there is not an emotional attachment like there is with you.

Answer 2

Most guys will look at p**n and **** off to it no matter how hot their girlfriend/wife is. Don't worry about it, I'm sure it has nothing to do with you at all.

Answer 3

p**n doesn't usually mean actual cheating. many p**n watchers are Less likely to cheat...but that depands from person to person as well. Best thing is to get help. change lifestyles. Have him work out more, watch more other movies, work more, go to school, study more, read some motivational books ...i don't know ..find some other productive stuff to do ...

he will still continue to watch  ...unless he wants to stop but ...its not a real sign of cheating ..he is mentally a bit unhappy  but thats not always the case ..most guys just watch it for fun ...if its way too much ..its sign of addictions or unhappiness ..from other stuff.  

Answer 4

p**n is disruptive to the intimacy and safety of the relationship. Here's why:

    * You will feel "cheated on" by your partner because he needs something other than you in order to become aroused.

    * You will feel insecure about your body, your sexuality and your ability to satisfy your partner.

    * You will feel emotionally distant and separate from your partner during s*x, worrying that he is not completely "there" with you.

    * You will feel angry and resentful towards your partner for not respecting your feelings..

    * You will eventually feel turned off to s*x, since for you, it is associated with humiliation, control and a feeling of inadequacy.

The problem is-- you thought it was OK as long as you "supervise" him, but he's not a child so he's going to do whatever he wants. You're either 100% ok with p**n or you're not. Which is it?

Answer 5

no its not a sign of cheating. all men do it. h**l i even do it lol. its not a big deal really.

Answer 6

The bottom line is - if he knows that you do not feel comfortable with it, he should STOP.

I get so tired of men saying that this is "something that they do"....(eyeroll)....If they want to do it and if their wife is okay with it - fine. But if they know it is hurtful and if they really care, they would control their pathetic little "urges" and respect the woman that is "giving it up".

Excuses are PATHETIC.

And respect is not so common anymore.

Answer 7

First off.. terrible thing about people who just reports questions because they don't agree with something. Disrispect and intolerance is what has the world the way it is... so THANK YOUUUUU... (this was not to the asker)

Now, don't feel bad.

I do look to p**n just like most PEOPLE (i'm not saying guys only.. women do it too) do. It's fine. It's how you think about p**n that makes you feel bad. I'm not saying you are wrong. I'm just saying. Don't take it personally. It's easy to understand how and why you feel this way. You are absolutely normal. I'm just saying. We guys like to watch p**n. But that has NOTHING to do with our partners, fidelity or current relationships (usually, i can't of course generalize). I don't think your case would worry me. Your guy is being a guy. Don't put conditions. Instead share your fears with him. I bet he will tell you you have nothing to worry about. That he likes you exactly the way you are physically too. I personally like to see stuff that I can later try with my wife. She knows I watch p**n. Sometimes I see something weird or crazy.. and I tell her, sometimes we watch together.. but not ALWAYS. If she asked me to only watch p**n when she is with me, to be honest. I wouldn't do it. Sometimes it's a kinky passtime. In any case. Take it easy.. you'll see you have nothing to worry about..  

Answer 8

mostly all men do this. it's not that he's cheating or that he doesn't love you. it's just him and what he wants to do. maybe u should try pleasuring him and maybe he won't watch p**n videos all the time.

Answer 9

It is not always a sign of cheating....

I am a WOMAN and love watching p**n and playing with myself....

I watch p**n all the time with and WITHOUT my man

Answer 10

maybe he's into girls who don't use long, rambling run on sentences when they type.

Answer 11

it's not the sign of a cheating man as most men do it.  i wouldnt make him lie though by asking himi to stop doing it.  most likely he won't.  therefore, you just have to change your perception of it.  after all, would you rather that he looks at p**n or goes to spends 300 a night in strip bars every week or starts chatting with women online?

Answer 12

Maybe his s*x drive is higher than yours and he doesn't want to inconvenience you twenty times a week.

Answer 13

It seems you are the one with the problem, as you said it is cool for him to watch p**n with you but. . . .   The only difference is that when it is with you, I would think that you get some benefits from him.   I believe it is better that he is watching p**n at home instead of going out to clubs looking - don't you?

Answer 14

Breathe woman! Thats quite possibly the longest sentance i've ever read!!

Answer 15

These p**n questions are getting tedious.  I've yet to see a guy on here complaining about ANYTHING a woman watches, reads, or thinks.

Honestly, little girl, it's just entertainment.  BF has a better chance of getting laid by going shopping at WalMart than he does sitting in his own home watching videos.

Answer 16

Doesn't anyone under the age of 30 use the internet for anything intelligent or educational?

There's more than women s******g dogs and men humping sheep folks.

Shakespeare, Byron, Val X...save me!

Answer 17

lying about it is wrong. Relax about his masturbating. That isn't cheating in any way. and keep watching it with him too.

Answer 18

I wouldn't say it's a sign of him cheating. I would say your reaction to it is a sign of your insecurities. I bet though, if you keep nagging him about it, he will get sick of it and leave or then maybe cheat. By nagging him constantly about it and freaking out when you catch him at it, it perpetuates in his mind the defects you see in yourself.  He's not looking at p**n cause he thinks they are better, but you making those comments plants the idea in his head, and the more you nag, the more those ideas will grow. just let it be, and enjoy it yourself, my hubby and i sure do, together and separately, and we are completely in love and monogamous, even after 5 yrs.

Answer 19

this boyfriend sounds like more trouble than he is worth...  its time to  take another look at your relationship with him...

if he's not going to stop the p**n... time for your to move your life forward without him  

Answer 20

  Men are like children the more boundaries you give them the more they will break. If you fully trust him give him space tell him to look just don't hide it from you. Don't get mad when he looks tho he is a man.  Men are visually stimulated and looking gets them off doesn't mean they don't love you it means they love pooty.  I am very open about p**n with my husband, he has magazines and cd's and he has gone to titty bars before.  If I give him enough pooty and let him talk with his guy buddies all macho he doesn't look at them or go to the bars.  We have been married 10 yrs and he has been 3 times.  He didn't have to lie to me or feel guilty and he just liked the thought that he could and not be in trouble. Hope that helps.  You have to both have trust in one another or it just won't work.  

Answer 21

Most men love looking @ p**n, I doubt that his looking @ p**n makes your bf more likely 2 cheat on U.

Best of luck, I would devote more time 2 this answer, but my time on this library comp is nearly gone.

Timothy

:o)