Those of you born to single mums? (sensitive subject)?

Question

How do you feel about growing up without your father?

Saddened, Angry, Not Bothered, Glad, Resentful .....etc...

thank you xx

Answer 1

Growing up without a father didn't affect me until I got older, my mom died, and I felt abandoned. My father is now dying-- and I find it very hard to see him sick but I also have no sympathy because he was never around....

Haha, back to your question. I was C all of the above. Sad, angry, not bothered, glad, and resentful!

Answer 2

To be honest I'm glad! My mum did an amazing job raising me and my sister and I have no doubt that we wouldn't have had the same childhood with my father around. He liked to drink and cheated on my mum for several years before she got wise and divorced him. I was seven when he left and even though he only lives around the corner from me I haven't seen him since I was 8.

My mum was both our mum and dad and she worked hard, in an office during the day and behind a bar at night, to give us all we wanted without any help from my dad. Most single parents are amazing, selfless people and I for one take my hat off to them!!!

Answer 3

your doin my head in now plz go away u emo

Answer 4

I wasnt born to single mom. They divorced when i was 4. But growing up without my father.. for about 3 years.. then he took custody of us( using lies.. that were found out almost 8 years later).. so my mom got me back at age 16.. But it was hard. I didnt get to see my mom, except for twice a month. a total of 4 days.

I now am a single parent. My bf(who isnt my childs real father) has been around since before my son was born. My son is now 2. I imagine he will feel hurt, and resentment.. once he realizes this.. but hopefully he will understand that it was for the best. (that he isnt around his felonious drug using/selling father--who picks women over his children) His real father hasnt bought him anything since he has been born..

Answer 5

As a single Mum myself,

I hope you don't mind me posting my view!

I had my first born when I was just 17,still a child myself.  I grew up overnight,and Thankfully

bonded with my son. I Never once lied about his Father,nor did I blaspheme him to my son.

I did everything At that time possible to make

my boy,as Secure and Happy as possible.

As the years passed and my son grew,

A letter arrived out of the blue,from my sons dad.  He wanted to meet him,so I let my boy,

who at this time was 15,decide.

They met,on two Occasions. My son stopped

seeing his Dad,as in his words "his curiosity had

been fulfilled.]  

My son is 35,now. The point I am trying to get across is,:

Although I did my Best, my son was very aware that a man was lacking in his life.

He had no man to look up to, to rough and tumble with,kick a football with,share men things with and everything else lacking from being Fatherless!

He knew I Loved him and more Importantly,

Respected and loved me back.

So you see, Whilst it is good for a child to have their Dads around, Us women can if necessary

Go It alone.   It's Hard work and at times,

All we want is time to ourselves,but the Reward of seeing that little being,once so dependant on you,All grown up and making something of their Life,through all your mistakes, trials and errors, is Worth a Wealth of Untold Pride and Victory!

Answer 6

Not bothered. I have never seen my dad, he has never tried to find me, so I can't be done with wasting energy on him. I have never had any inclination to 'find out where I came from' and I don't think I ever will.

Answer 7

well my parent are divorced and have been since i was 16 months old....from about 1-4yrs old i really loved my daddy because i was a daddy's girl..lol but the 2x's he remarried he pick women who hated little girls( idk why) but from then on i have hated him because he always put them befor me and my brother no matter what!!!  so i wuld say i am very resentful toward my daddy i stoped going to visit him when i ws 10 because i couldnt stand to be called names and beat by my step mom and have my dad say i was lieing about it!!!

Answer 8

I am not really that bothered, because my mum found a new man and then had 2 kids with him, he was loving and he treated me and my brother and sister (all have the same dad who divorced my mum) like his own, and i treat the daughters my mum had with him, Sarah and Becky like my real siblings Gabriel and Helen. When i was little i knew that i was going to find the right man who would stick with me and i have found him, Charlie we are married and we are never ever going to get divorced we are soul mates and we our expecting our first child who is a girl!

Answer 9

Not bothered.  My mum did a great job in raising the 3 of us.

Answer 10

I lost my way a bit but it turned out ok.

Answer 11

I wasn't born to a single mum, but wish I had been.  My mother believed in staying with a man for the sake of the children. Myself, my brother and sister, suffered years of emotional and verbal abuse from my father. My mother finally left him after we'd all left home, when she discovered he was having an affair.

I divorced my husband when my children were very young, not wanting to repeat history. I brought them up as a single parent. My kids (now grown up) are happy and doing well.  Both of them say they had a good childhood. One good parent is much better than living in an unhappy home.

Answer 12

my mum and dad were together when i was born but broke up when i was about 2, i still see my dad all the time + have done throughout my life so i don't know if you call that a single parent family ? it's kind of upsetting and yes sometimes i feel resentful towards them for leaving me with 2 families but in the end it was for the best and now i have even more family to support me and help me so tbh i think it may even be better than having 1 family (: x