Those who adopted a child at birth, did you name your child or did the bio-parents?

Question

I was adopted and am adopting a little girl right now. My adoptive parents gave me my first name and my bio parents gave me my middle name.

It was the same with my daughter, Isabelle. I gave her the name Isabelle and her bio-mom always wanted a daughter named Adriana, so I named her Isabelle Adriana.

So what about you? What did you do when you adopted? Or if your an adoptee, how'd you get your name?

Answer 1

My biological mom wanted me adoptive mom to name me so that's what happened ;)

Answer 2

My birth mother gave me a name but my adoptive parents changed it when they got me, I was less than a month old. I'm glad they did. I'm their child, they should name me.

Answer 3

my parents named me when I was placed with them as a foster baby i had no name. After a month FC said they had to name me so they did.  My young cousin who is also adopted my Aunt and Uncle gave him his first name and his middle name is the name of someone in his birth family.

Answer 4

My daughter was not adopted as a newborn, but at 9 months old internationally.  We did change her name, for "fitting in" purposes, but have always in our family used both her original name and the name we gave her.  Sometimes we use one and sometimes we use the other, and she has always responded to both.  She has recently started referring to herself by her original name, mainly I think because she has articulation issues and it is easier for her to say than her other name, so we've been using it more.  It does make me see how much it is a part of who she is.  I really thought we would use her original name some but that it would mainly be the name that we gave her that we would use, but that's not what's happening and we're cool with that and going with it.  I'm perfectly willing to let her decide what name she wants to use in school and possibly change it legally back to her original name if that is what she wants.  I don't know, if I had to do it over again, if I would change it.  I do think that is a legitimate concern to have a name that people don't know how to pronounce, etc.  But, I have since decided that changing a name is weirder and sadder than I thought it would be.

Answer 5

I too am adopted and have 2 adopted children- and my husband and I named our children, and my adoptive parents named me. Our children's birth moms wanted us to name our children, and had no problem with the names we choose- however what you did and your parents did is actually a great idea

Answer 6

My bio mother named me Tina,but my aparent's changed it to Ella.however,they still kept my middle name,Marie.when i met my bio mom 9 yrs ago she loved my name too.

Answer 7

um i was adopted and my adoptive parents gave me my first and middle name :D dana and mary.... my birth mom was like 18 tho so idk if that makes a difference or not...

Answer 8

My daughter's bio mom and I agreed on a name together.

Answer 9

i was adopted shortly after birth and my parents changed my name...which was fine, can't say i cared for the original name too much lol

I have no problems with the fact they changed my name when they welcomed me into their family.  They put thought into my name and it was given from love.  I'm proud to have my name as it stands today.

Answer 10

The adopting parents gave my daughter her first name, the middle name was my choosing.

Answer 11

Our youngest daughter was placed at birth. Her first parents wanted us to name her so we did. She also gave her our last name on her OBC.

Answer 12

I really like both sets of parents naming the child. What a wonderful idea. (In our case, we named our daughter. She was just "baby girl" before that.)

Answer 13

i was adopted at birth  and my adoptive parents named me.....but since then ive added my birth mother&fathers last names in my name

Answer 14

My name is the same, expect that my a-parents just changed the first letter of my name. So, i still have my original name that my b-mom gave me, including my middle name. I was adoted at 4, so they didn't want to disrespect me or my b-mom by totally changing my name.

Answer 15

i was given 4 sets of names.  one finally stuck.

i resent people changing my name.

Answer 16

My adoptive parents named me.  My birthmother did as well, but they weren't informed of that.  When I requested my non-id info, my mother was furious that "that girl" had the audacity to name me.

We named my son, and so did his mother.  We kept part of his birth  name as one of his middle names.

Answer 17

I'M ADOPTED AND MY BIOLOGICAL PARENT NAMED ME, BUT MY MOM JUST STARTED CALLING ME ANOTHER NAME (KINDA LIKE A NICKNAME) THAT I EVENTUALLY CHOSE OVER MY BIRTH NAME.. IF THE CHILD ALREADY HAS A NAM, JUST GIVE THEM THE OPTION TO KEEP IT OR CHANGE IT SO THEY FEEL LIKE THEY'RE IN CONTROL OF SOMETHING!

Answer 18

I'm a birth mom.

My middle name is Rose.

Adopive moms middle name is Rose.

So Rose was a given.

I picked a first name, my son picked a first name, and AF had a family name in mind. We sat in the hospital room, asked their oldest son, who was 5 at the time, to pick between the three names.

He picked the most beautiful one.

Answer 19

Our son came into our life at 15 months old.  Since he was familier with his first name and the adoption process took some time we kept his first name but changed his middle name and of course last name because he had no clue what his original middle/last name were.  So we gave him a middle name to match my husband's sons from his first marriage so our son would fit right in.

Answer 20

We named all three of my brothers because none of their birthmoms bothered to name them. My youngest brothers name was legally "Baby Boy" until he was officially adopted at 1 year.

Answer 21

DD's mom wanted us to name her......we gave her her name at birth and when she is adopted next month she will keep her original surname as a second middle name. We will just add our last name.

Answer 22

We did the same thing. We talked to the birth mother about it before hand and agreed that we would pick the first name and she picked the middle name.

Answer 23

I found out about my son when he was 10 days old.  His natural mother already named him.  I kept his first name and changed the middle and last names.

I love the name you've selected, it's very pretty, and girlie.