Tips To Stop Step-Sister From Lying?

Question

Basically, my famileh (lol) and I are trying to show her how we don't believe her anymore when she says anything and that doesn't work. I've also heard this is from lack of attention...so after awhile of giving her more attention, that just INSCREASES her lying.

Anything I can do to stop her? It's been going on too long. D:<

Answer 1

Your step-sister doesn&#039;t need your attention, she needs her parents&#039; attention (NOT your parents - her own).

I&#039;m sure if you take a good, hard look, you might find her parents aren&#039;t giving her quality time and attention.... this has nothing to do with you.  You can&#039;t fix it and it&#039;s not your fault at all.

Answer 2

Remember the story of the little boy who cried wolf? How he kept running to his villagers claiming to see a wolf, and when they ran to see, there was nothing. Then one day, he cried wolf again, only they didn&#039;t listen.. because they no longer believed him?

Well, stop listening when you&#039;re sure she&#039;s telling yet another lie. If she has no one to listen to her exaggerations, then it may encourage her to in fact, stop it all together. Worse comes to worse, she at least moves on and finds some new ears for her stories to fall on.

You could also start calling her out when you know for fact she IS lying. Stop her mid-sentence, and say &quot;I hope you know you&#039;re wasting your breath, I already know that is a lie.&quot;

It may embarrass her just enough to stop her in her tracks.

And, if all else fails, the family could get her into counseling, discover WHY she feels the need to lie.

Good luck!

Answer 3

It is hard to stop someone from lying because you never know when she is lying or not.

You just need to show her that you do not need to lie to get anyone&#039;s attention.

She just might be influenced.  

Answer 4

I don&#039;t think there is anything you, personally, can do to change her habits.  Since giving her more attention only increased the behavior, this can be ruled out as a function (motive).  

If I had to guess (which I have to do since I don&#039;t know her), I&#039;d say that the lying is probably a means of control.  She is your step-sister so obviously at some point her home was broken.  I don&#039;t know how long she has had to adjust to this.  Plus now she is in the same position as you, having to share her parent with someone else and their kid(s).  

Typically kids in these situations feel a lack of control, and rightly so.  Unfortunately it sounds as though your sis has found a destructive way to control and manipulate her environment.  Now that no one trusts or believes her, you are all sent into a crazy guessing game every time she opens her mouth.

It sounds trite, but she should see someone professionally about this.  If it can be rectified behaviorally or therapeutically, great.  Otherwise, it may be pathological, in which case more intensive intervention would be required.

Answer 5

First of all I want to tell you good luck.  I am 23 and still haven&#039;t figured out how to solve that one.  She did it again over the weekend only it was worse this time.  Almost costing my marriage.

But, you need to ignore it since attention makes her lie more.  And, if that doesn&#039;t work maybe have a psychiatric evaluation done on her since it can be caused by mental diseases at times.

Good Luck; I know what you are going through.