Tips on positive thinking

Question

My gf has a problem with negative thoughts, especially when I'm away from her which unfortunately I am now, and I'm trying to get her to help herself with avoiding them but I'm not sure what else to say at this point. Can anyone help me and of course her with controlling this negativity problem?

Answer 1

Its very sweet of you to try helping your girlfriend to cope with negative thoughts. BUT... there comes a time when that person has to realize themselves that its only UP TO THEM to change themselves -- no matter how hard. If she only feels better when you are around, that's not going to help her in a long run.

And for you, if it keeps on going this way, you may start to feel like you are wasting your energy and she is just not getting better.

She needs to try to help herself sometimes and make an effort to do it. You can definitely help her by supporting her, but its mostly up to her.

Answer 2

all you can do really is be there for her, and listen to her problems. she can try and see a therapist if it helps. cognitive therapy is good, it basically alters the way that you think. theres nothing really you can say to her, its a decision rather than being able to learn it. if shedecides to be positive she can be. tell her to write down the good things and each time a negative thought comes outrule it with a positive one. start the day with a smile and writing down stuff really helps. its not easy, but its definately not impossible.

Answer 3

My dear yound man...

Well...first of all I must compliment you on the way you seem to care about your girlfriend !!! Real nice of you to be soooo dedicated... Now..how you can help her ?? All of the "above" advice is pretty good and maybe I can make another suggestion...There is this great book by : Norman Vincent Peale called : "The power of Positive Thinking". This has helped me quite a lot to change my way of thinking. Maybe you'll check out a book-store & purchase it for her ??

Meanwhile, just encourage her, that everything will be OK eventually, keep talking to her as much as possible to reassure her, give her stability, etc.- The..."rest", she has to do...herself !!! If "all things fail", maybe it would be a good idea to talk to a professional therapist a couple of times...This is a good idea to install a little more positiveness in her...- I am sure, all will work out in due time...

Wishing you all the best for the future! Greetings from Germany with all my love & care.... Annette***