Tips on teaching to share?

Question

I have an 8 yr old daughter and never had problem with her wanting to share. I have a 6 yr old stepson who will not share. We have tried it all to get him to share. We have 2 other children together and our 2 yr old is starting to act just like that too. When we do make the 6 yr old share he goes off and cries and gets mad and makes comments like "nobody can see my toys again." He will cry until that person is done playing with his toys or looking at something that is his. We don't know what to do not having this problem before. We want him to act better so he can set a better example for our smaller ones. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

maybe he isn't adjusting to the whole step son situation. things like that bother kids for a long time. try to get him to talk about it and how he feels. He is still young so don't be too hard on him. playing games with the whole family will help him with team work and taking turns. let him have a few toys that he can put in his room in a special place that he doesnt have to share, maybe his favorite toys, but tell him he must share the other ones. let him pick out a few of the ones he gets to keep put up just for himself.

Answer 2

It sounds like he is protecting is stuff. This happens when a child goes from being the only one, to being in a group. They cling to everything in fear they will never get it back. Maybe you should a a few toys (tell him to pick 5-10 of his favorite toys) that only he can play with, put he has to share everything else. That way he has a feeling of ownership, and soon will be ok sharing everything because he knows he will get it back.

Answer 3

interesting question,am having the same with mine,only i have 3 and a half year old twins boy/girl and my boy will not share with his 2and half year old step brother,but i suppose there still young though its been going on for over a year and really makes me feel like the wicked step mother! lol as i still havent properly bonded with my step son this proablly being one of the main reasons as i have to keep interveening and telling off my boy so have probablly put my stepson off me! we have him every other weekend,as a tempory solution weve found at the moment when he comes round he brings a couple of toys that my son likes to play with and distracts him so my stepson can play with his toys? dont know if its ideal but giving us some peace at the moment lol,maybe trying something like that? or as someone else said sounds good keeping few of his own things that he doest have to share.or maybe getting them something new wich is joint for both of them as a little older they might understand that and maybe help them to share other stuff? though i keep being told by a couple of friends with older kids that they have always hated sharing and stll do and its often common with kids,though its nice if can resolve,good luck will also be interested in your answers to for advice!