To Dating single parents, or now married but once single parents, Help!!!?

Question

Background:

I am dating a single father of 2 teens, I have never been married and I don't have children and have never dated someone with children, also I am a youth specialist working with teens and preteens within my church.

What are some things you would like the person you are dating to do with your children?

What are some absolute no's with your children (and I would never harm a child but I know thats a definite)?

What are some things you would just like the person you are dating to be informed about?

Any advice would be greatly appreicated and if you can think of anything else I would love to know.

Answer 1

Treat them with respect, don't try to take over for their mother, and ask if he will want more children in the future if you do.

You need to ask yourself a few things too.  Such as, are you prepared to be a secondary parent to another woman's children?  Will you be able to take a step back to any discipline and life decisions being made for the children even if they affect you directly?  Are there any behavioural, medical, or financial situations you may have to face when dealing with these kids?  Are you willing to marry this man, his kids, his ex-wife and all of the baggage that goes with it?

Answer 2

HI.

I am a single mum with 2 kids, and i think that the 1st answer you received(above me) was right!