To Live Or Not To Live?

Question

I want to live with my grandma and she says she would adopt me but she is scared that my mom will not let her see my brothers and sisters. What do I do?

Answer 1

There has to be a reason you want to live with your grandma.  If it is just because of fighting with your mother then maybe you should just vacation at your grandma's for a week or so.  If it is because of abuse you need to get out and do what is right for you.  

As I stated before though if it is due to fighting that is normal for the teenage expierence expecially with a girl but your grandmothers may not be any better then your mom;s

Answer 2

You need to get the adults in your life together in one room, to talk about what is the best living arrangement for you.  Based on:

1.  Your safety

2.  Their available time for you

3.  Their ability to supervise you appropriately

4.  Their general kindness and loving attitude towards you

5.  Their financial ability to take care of you

This should not be a decision you have to make.  You should have an opinion, but not the decision.  If those adults around you are not capable of making a good decision for you, then ask someone who has your total best interest at heart to be involved in this!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Idk but this seems more of a personal matter.

Work out your own salvation.  Do not depend on others.  ~Buddha

Answer 4

This between you and your parents, strangers cannot answer this.

I am guessing that you just do not like the rules at home and your Grandmother would be easy on you.

I had two children and they would have been hard pressed to think anyone else was going to get to raise them.  You do not always get the easy way out in life.

Answer 5

You sound like a very mature individual.  Sit down with grandma first, and discuss the reasons you want to live with her.  Maybe it is for more privacy (you said you had siblings), to be able to concentrate on studies more....Then both of you sit down with your parents and have a serious discussion.  Let them see you have given it alot of thought.  Maybe adoption is too stern to throw on you parents....just a different living arrangement, letting them know you are not trying to get out of their lives.  They might feel possessive/hurt, and not let you go if you want to make such a permanet change.  They would need to give a paper to your grandma giving her permission to have you treated in case of an emergency.  Let them in on all big decisions....don't every close them out.  No matter oiw bad you think it may be....once they are gone, that's it.  Hope this help and you have a great life.

Answer 6

well thats a tough decision but go with your heart and if your happier with grandma then go for it

Answer 7

If you are having a tough time and for somereason you get on alot better with your granmother then move in with her but take it all seriously cos you could hurt your mother if you move out and she might not take you back.

You know whats the right decsion