To all Boys (Geminis (zodiac) preferred)... what do I do with my lover who never returns my calls....?

Question

...all of a sudden ?

Story is: its been a year of 'lovin'...granted, he has expressed interest in other girls and is very non-committal...always leaves at 3am after a night of 'love'makin'... I know he cares for me, but treats me like an insignificant other most of the time...

He wants me to bear his kids, yet has told me he is in love with another...celebrity who lives in New York (we live in Germany)...

other than telling me to "forget him"... whadoido?

Ignore him for a week? Flirt with other men? tell him I have found love? that I'm having anohter man's child?

he's pissing me off with his non-comittal, ocassionally never responding attitude...

but at times hes semi-lovely... ;)

*Sigh*

:)

Answer 1

Ditch him, he is not worth it. If someone loves you they treat you right if not for anything than for the fear of loosing you. He does not seem to have it in him. Ae you too available?

Answer 2

OK...Your *SiGh* is completely understood..

Thus far you've ALLOWED him to continue the actions that he takes with you. The s*x and all is cool, not everyone wants to commit, BUT allowing him to straight up have s*x and spend time when HE wants, and then leave...pbly to someone else is unacceptable..I say that only because that action is affecting YOU now. I think its pretty selfish for him to act how he wants when HE wants. He wants you to bear his kids cuz he probably realizes your a GOOD woman, but he DOESN'T wanna commit. Thats fine you wont force him then, BUT you NEED some kind of RESPECT, if your willing to settle for less then you should be getting some kind of appreciation. Aren't you worth it?? IF he thinks your a good woman enough that he wants you to bear a CHILD , then he should be MAN enough to treat you like he see's you...BuT honey.... Your allowing him to treat you less than you deserve. This is not a relationship, i can clearly see that..But you dont have to be in a full blown relationship in order to be apprecitated or respected. Anyone can be sweet..He's not doing anything that someone else can't do for LONGER and more so TRULY from the heart. No one should allow their emotions to be dragged through the dirt, even if the person allows it..He should be man enough NOT to take advantage. Who ever else he's into you should leave him alone with. I PROMISE you that their will be someone better than him... If this is not gonna be something that will last, and you already know this..why allow yourself to get worked up over his actions. The reason why he is doing this to you is because he knows he CAN. What you can do is is be serious about the next actions that you wanna take, Im speaking about you wanting to flirt with other men, ignoring him for a week, or lying about you being in love with someone else...Dont do anything for him..Dont do it to try and p**s him off, you know why?? Because your still not thinking about yourself. If he see's what your doing and does change for a BIT, he's still gonna be the same person and your still gonna be wasting your time. Think about YOU..REALLY start seeing other people, REALLY start Ignoring him...Not because you want him to get upset, but because you realize he is not what you need and you wanna leave him behind. Your lucky by the way that you have this option and that you dont have any kids with him. Be strong and good luck.

Answer 3

I have to DITTO everything above... You cannot change a person. They have to change themselves.

This guy has gotten a free ride and it is time to put on the brakes and force him to "c**p or get off the pot". i wonder how you could allow yourself to be so used in this way.

If you want a s*x-friend... Good for you as long as it is your choice. But, even that is a two-way street. Sounds like he only wants things one way....his way.

Show him that isn't the way the universe rocks.

Answer 4

he is playing with you whether or not the feelings are true or the "lovin" is good is unclear. i say drop him and make him chase after you, then you will know one way or another. do not attempt to play his game by doing anything it would probably back fire on you, just simply be completely unavailabe and see what he does. . .

it may be hard but you will get your answer.