To all the parents out there with a daughter?

Question

if ur daughter was 14 and she came home one day with hickeys ALL OVER HER NECK and her shirt was showing her clevage and her shirt looked liked it was put on wrong WHAT WOULD U HAVE DONE/SAID TO HER

this happend to me but my dad seen the shirt and the hickeys

and he said put a diffrent shirt on but i knew he was mad at me

Answer 1

i would talk to her about having self respect and then ground her and keep a close eye on who she hangs out with. id also make sure that she isnt alone with a guy until she learns how to be in that type of situaton with out disrespecting herself. maybe 16 or 17.

Answer 2

I would have told her to respect herself and walked out of the room.

And also would have started to limit the time she spent with boys, and making sure there would be parents present

Answer 3

If you was my daughter, you wouldn't be seeing that young man anymore. I do have a just turned 15 yr. old and she isn't allowed to be anywhere with a boy. If she goes to the movies, her father and I are in the same movie but a few rows back. If she is talking to a boy on her phone, she has to be in the same room with us, so we can hear the conversation.

It would make me very sad to ever see my daughter looking like you did. It would show me that she is willing to let a young man touch her that only a married couples do. Plus, I couldn't trust her again for a long time, knowing that she might eventually give in to her lustful feelings.

Your father most likely didn't say anything cause he was in shocked. He might want to cool down a bit before he talks to you, so he can have a clear mind.

Was what you did worth losing your fathers trust? Was this worth having your father be disappointed in you?

Most likely if you were my daughter, you would be grounded for a long time, and you probably will be supervised in all your activities.

Answer 4

Simply put, I would have said," I'm disappointed". By saying that, you know how deeply hurt I would be. I love all 6 of my daughters, if they came home looking like that, I couldn't say anything else.

Daughters have a special place in Dad's heart, we try to guide you and hope you make good decisions. We always love you unconditionally and are there when you need us the most. Give your Dad a hug, tell him you love him. It's time to talk.

Answer 5

If you were my daughter you would not be going out again for a long while!!

Answer 6

We would have a little chat about self respect and dignity. And about how ''when your in my house you follow my rules and you young lady, are NOT going out dressed like that or coming home dressed like this! Do you understand? Or you will be grounded!''

Answer 7

i'd say it's time to rent one of those pregnant body suits that i had to wear in child development classes, so you'd know what its gonna feel like to be pregnant.

Home schooling, that may be step two

Going to church everyday....step 3?????

Watching birthing tapes... step 4??

Seriously??? Dont go down that path. When you make out, etc, you'll want to have s*x, then WHEN you have s*x, as a woman, you will "want" to get pregnat, at least, at the moment.....You can not be rational while having s*x....men nor women.

Answer 8

i would definitely lose some trust in her. i would make her cover up, take away those inappropriate clothes, have a long talk with her, ground her from having a boyfriend, and make sure it never happened again. i have 5 girls and my oldest is only 10 but im thinking no dating until 16.

Answer 9

I agree with Tina. My daughter is only 2 months old, but I can not imagine how I am going to deal with boys when she gets older. I can see why your dad would be wanting you to put a different shirt on, and be annoyed that you were broadcasting your hickeys by not covering them up.

Answer 10

I would of told my 14 year old daughter, that she is grounded.  Shes to young to be messing around and to have hickeys.  s***s have hickeys all over them, and my daughter will not be a s**t!  And she would not be aloud to go to her boyfriends house.  He can come to ours, but adults will be watching them.