To choose between partner and parents?

Question

I am in a 1year + relationship, what i realized is that we always tend to have the same problem. We fight in major because of this issue.

I work and study part time, I have many things to juggle.

My parents are rather controlling, but one thing they always want is for me to be able to spend every sundays with them. since i am rarely back home early and such. Sunday is 'family day' for us.

Whats happening now is my partner and i rarely meet. We have become so busy with our lives that we only can meet twice a week.

which is on a weekday and on a saturday.

Problem now is my partner wants sunday to be a day to meet up as well. However i cant just ditch my folks and i am torn between this.

My partner insist i choose between the two and i have no idea what to choose. i cant ditch my folks cause i know how much it means to them to be with them on sundays, however i cant choose my partner as well, as much as i would love to spend more time with him.

Please shed some light into my problem.

I am clueless right now.

I have tried talking/ explaining/ and it didnt work at both parties..

Answer 1

i do wish you keep sundays family. even as much time you and your boyfriend have been together, family is really important. i gave up my family on my first relationship, i thought all i needed was him, but i was wrong. i started missing my dad so much, i would cry to sleep. them when we split, my family was so hurt, i had no one. i was even more lonley than before. your family is a great thing to have. i wish i had a big family that wanted to know me. my own sister says im her blood but not her friend. and this is all because i hurt them. it took them about a year to come around me. am today im so greatful to have found someone that does not take my family away. me and my boyfriend just got done having my whole family get together for the 4th of july, and ive never been happier. from my past experience, i knew knew that you could met a man that your family loves, never, and now im blessed, i had to lose it -to understand whats infront of me. ill never hurt my family. i was not raised like that, and love will find a way.

still today, i only talk to a few family members, but im glad to have them there. i could never ask someone i love to choose. just wait untill its mom or dads turn to pass, how are your sundays going to feel then. dont regret anything. you know whats more important.

love cant buy happiness

family delivers happiness

your hoildays will be so lonley, trust me - i know. and im glad to say, i cant wait untill x-mas, so my whole family can join and eat in peace,im so glad my family is glad with who im with... now that it took some trial and error!!!

Answer 2

Your partner should respect that Sunday is family day.  Seems to me that your partner is just as controlling as you say your parents are.  Ditch the partner it will only get worse

Answer 3

Whats the point if you can't even do that for your partner? you're with your folks every day but how about your partner that really need you?

Think about your commitment when you want to be with your partner? you shouldnt ask or say yes before you think about all this commitments.

Ditch your partner then! Thats the only way where you can have all day as sundays. If your folks wants and mean so much for you to be on sundays at home, think about your partner. He feel more than that I think.

I would say your partner is a dumb ***..still would beg for you even though you're going away from him. You can't even meet him when he want to then whats the point. Love comes with sacrifices.