To make love, or to wait? ?

Question

My bf of 3 months is going to propose to me with in the next 3 months. We've discussed marriage, children, the future, and our combined goals on a regular basis. I know he loves me more than anyone he's ever been with. I didn't even feel this way about last bf whom I was with for almost 4 yrs. -- My bf and I compliment each others personalities so well...

We haven't slept together yet ( we are both Catholic and we're waiting ) but it has become increasingly difficult. Sometimes I feel like he's frustrated with me. He tests me, and I know he's trying to be good but I really think it's taking it's toll on him. I know he would never pressure me into anything but I do feel like he's losing his patience or just growing weary.

Please can anyone come up with a good strategy to deal with this? I really dont want this to be an issue between us. But I dont see very many ways around it...

I am completely in love with my bf, and the passion drives me crazy too. But men and women are different in their ability to control their sexual drives...

what am I to do? How can I make him feel desired with out caving in?

Answer 1

Try foreplay or if he is horny enough, masturbation is another alternative to solving his issues.  Please wait because 3 months is not long enough to give into his demands.  

Answer 2

This is a though situation!

With my bf i only was able to wait for about three weeks and I felt so bad I thought I was gonna be sick for holding it!!

But anyways...

Try talking to him, next time you feel the sexual tension is going crazy, tell him how much you want it, but remind him on the reasons you both have to wait, and also, talk to him about how beautiful will it be to wait till the wedding..

Congrats, and Good Luck

Answer 3

You've only been together 3 months and he's going to propose within 3 months?  6 months of dating is not very long before making a lifelong commitment to someone.

Be sure prior to marrying one another that you know the depth of the commitment you're about to make.  If you're both Catholic that probably means you do -- divorce is NOT an option unless there is infidelity or abuse.  

I'd wait still.  Why not try being sexual with one another without actually having s*x yet?  It will quench a little bit of the desire for passion, and your wedding night can still be your first night!  Try oral, or just using your hands on one another -- then you're still virgins on your wedding night but you get to have a bit of fun with him in the meantime, expessing your love physically as well. :)

Good luck!

Answer 4

I say add another notch to your bedpost....then you guys can break up before the wedding.

And try not to quote morals.....you've had many past boyfreinds right?  I'm sure you didn't make them wait.

So why start now?

Answer 5

Wait. You've held off this far he can cool his jets until then as I'm sure you can.

Nice though. Good Catlick goils are hard to find.

Answer 6

There are other ways to satisfy him without having s*x.  Get a manual.

Answer 7

1 Corinthians 7:8-9

to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

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If you can't control yourselves and you plan on getting married, just do it already! I know what you are going through and once we were married that hunger between us went away and it's SUCH a relief! When he needs it, he gets it so there isn't that lustfulness and tension anymore.

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3 months isn't too short. I knew I was going to marry my husband the first time he touched my hand and knew there was something unique about him the day we met. We got engaged within 5 months and stayed engaged for 4 years or so (finances/job/house we were waiting to get settled out). If you guys are solid financially and you KNOW you are meant for each other, I don't see the need to wait longer than you need to. It took me 2 months to do my wedding (planning and then actual ceremony) so I would recommend setting at least that much time.

Answer 8

You've waited this long, continue being strong!! I am really proud of people who can wait for marriage. Take a look at site :

www.aimforsuccess.org

Answer 9

Your commitment to waiting is commendable.  I promise you that God will bless both of you and your marriage for your willing to follow his plan.  I encourage you to stay the course.  Don't give up.

I agree that it is difficult to wait.  And for Guys is can be very frustrating.  What is worse is we tend to take some of that frustration out on the woman we are with.  But he can learn to distract himself.  I found that sports was my best distraction.  I love to play Volleyball and no matter how in the mood I was, a good game of VB cleared my head.  Help him find a good distraction or project or activity.  Something he can use when tempted.

And God Bless.