To many days to plan and pay for ? who pays? - please help?

Question

we are going to have

an engagement party,

a registry,

hen and stage nights,

a night before the wedding party -(cultural)

and 2 receptions

who pays for what and when

Answer 1

The engagement party is generally hosted by and paid for by either the couple or the parents of either the bride or groom.  It's just a party usually for the purposes of getting the families and friends together to introduce everyone to each other, and it ranges from very casual to very formal.  No gifts are usually given.

A registry (what I'm familiar with) is just a list of items the couple wishes to receive for gifts.  It is usually provided free of charge by shops and stores, and then guests can purchase items from the lists.

Hen nights and stag nights are generally planned and paid for by the wedding party members in honor of the bride and groom.  These parties are not planned by you at all, although you may provide a guest list.  It ranges from the very simple to the very elaborate, depending on the budget of the wedding party members.

The rest is either paid for by the couple or the parents or both.

Nowadays, most wedding expenses are expected to be paid by the couple and the parents pitch in when and if they can or wish to.  It used to be that brides lived with their parents until they got married and rarely were able to support themselves, much less pay for a big party, so the bride's parents would pay for it just to get her out of their house!  These days many couples have been on their own for a while, have careers, and in some cases even live together before marriage, so many parents expect that they can pay their own way.

If your parents aren't volunteering to help pay, and gentle hints aren't working, then do your best to pay for things on your own or scale back your plans.

Answer 2

1. Engagement party - normally paid for by the family (either or both) of the bride and groom

2. Registry - just a listing of the gifts that you're hoping to get, no one "pays" for it but you're responsible for registering

3. Hen and Stag nights are usually put on by the wedding party but you might be responsible for a couple of your own drinks (if that's part of the plan)

4. A night before the wedding party - well, since it's cultural then I don't really know and I would assume your culture would dictate. Prominent in my culture is a groom's/rehearsal dinner and that is traditionally paid for by the groom.

5. 2 receptions?? Well, I would assume that it's one for each family so then the families would be responsible for their own.

You forgot the ceremony and that's traditionally paid for by the bride's parent's.

Notice I've said "traditionally", that's because in today's world often the bride and groom pay for a lot of their wedding, or both sets of parents pitch in equally.

Answer 3

Traditionally:

Who Pays?

Brides Family

Wedding Invitations, announcements (including postage.)

Bride’s Gown (dress)

Ceremony: Rental of the church or location of the ceremony, Musicians/music, soloist/choir, decorations.

Gratuities including traffic directing, parking, coat check fee, etc.

Bridesmaids Bouquet

Gifts for Maid/Matron of honor and bridesmaids

Transportation for wedding party to and from church and reception.

Wedding Photographs

Floral Decorations

Reception (food, wedding cake, beverages, gratuities for bartenders and waiters, decorations, music and

flowers.

Wedding gift for the bride and groom.

Bridesmaid luncheon.

Optional: Rehearsal Dinner

Grooms Family

Grooms Tuxedo

Gift for Bride

Honeymoon

Gift for Best Man and Groomsman

Flowers for wedding party and bride’s bouquet

Engagement and Wedding Rings

Marriage License

Bachelor rehearsal dinner

Wedding Attire

Travel Expenses and hotel bills

Wedding gift for Bride and Groom

Optional: Rehearsal Dinner

Guests and Attendants

Travel Expenses

Wedding gift for Bride and Groom

Wedding Attire

  

Answer 4

That is a lot of questions. I would recommend you get a really good wedding planning and etiquette book to get you started. You can visit http://www,topweddingquestions.com too and you can scan the previous posts.

Answer 5

an engagement party - bride's parents

a registry - you create, guests pick gifts to purchase

hen and stage nights - the bride & groom and their friends (everyone pays their own way)

a night before the wedding party -(cultural) - depends on your culture, the American rehearsal dinner is paid for by the groom's parents

and 2 receptions - typically the bride's parents will pay for the reception...not sure when there is two though...

Answer 6

You and your fiance will be responsible for the wedding night and the two receptions.

The engagement party is usually thrown by the parents, so typically, the bride and groom do not incur costs for that (they almost never host it themselves).

There's no fee to start a registry. Guests purchase gifts for you based on what you select, so the cost is up  to them.

Hen and stage nights (I'm assuming this is the bachelor/bachelorette parties?) are typically paid for by the wedding party, as they don't want the bride and groom to have to pay. however, it would be nice to buy a few of your own drinks and part of the tab. I don't think it's right for the wedding party )especially one person) to incur the cost of the entire party/evening. My fiance and I fully intend to pitch in at our joint Jack and Jill party.