To mothers: Would you be upset if you found out your daughter had s*x before marriage?

Question

Say she was legal age 18 and made the decision to lose it to her boyfriend. Would you be upset if you found out? Did you wait til marriage? What would you say to her after you found out?

Answer 1

I waited until I was married, but then again, I got married when I was 17.  

In today's world its very difficult to control that.  I am a mother of 2 girls, one is 26 and the other is 15.  

The only thing we can do is teach them right and trust they will make the right decision.

I may be upset, but I wouldn't give her a speech about something that you can't go back and mend.  I would, though, have, AGAIN, the talk about pregnancies and diseases that may be consequences of her new decision.

Answer 2

The first thing i would ask is if she used protection, if it was my daughter she would be on birth control. Second, I had s*x before I was married and now have a 2 year old that is my pride and joy. There is no way to stop a 18 year old from having s*x because they are a legal adult. People will do what they want in there life and you just need to be there for support. Just make sure she is being careful cause she may want to have s*x but might not want to take care of a little baby right now. Hope this helps alittle.

Answer 3

i couldn't get upset if she made the choice on her own.and all i could do is hope that she used protection.at 18 that is a choice she had to make.

Answer 4

I didn't wait till marriage and I wouldn't be upset if my kids didn't, but I want them to be safe! I have three girls, 6,5, and 3, the two oldest are my step kids, and I lost my virginity when I was 15. I got pregnant when I was 16 and I know how hard that life is. I just hope they make the right decisions so they don't have to struggle like I did. I will always be there for my children no matter what happens!

Answer 5

No I wouldn't be upset a slong as she wasn't 12 or something. Like 17 or 18 is ok. Because I know it's going to happen. And I would just hope it's with someone special. If it's with a loser then yes I would be upset for that reason. But teens are going to have s*x, most likely before marraige. I did and so I know it happens.  

Answer 6

My daughters s*x life is none of my business after a certain age. I made sure my daughters were well prepared for boys who selfishly talk them into doing something they may regret. My job as a mom is to help nurture a strong feeling of self respect and honor about their bodies, and if they choose to engage in s*x, they do it because its a powerful expression of their womanhood, not just because some wanker wants to use them to get off.

I think they have made good choices, but I wouldn't know, its none of my business.