To people who have adopted, would you do the same again, or (if you could) would you rather have your own baby

Question

To people who have adopted, would you do the same again, or (if you could) would you rather have your own baby

Answer 1

I've adopted 2 children and would adopt again if the opportunity presents itself.  I've honestly never tried to conceive on purpose, so I couldn't tell you if I could give birth or not.

Answer 2

I would give my right arm at a chance to have a biological child.  Realizing that I cannot get pregnant or carry a child to term, has been a huge devastation to my life.  However, that being said, I would adopt again in a heartbeat.  My son is my life.  I would not have had a chance to be a Mother without adoption and I love my son more than life itself.  I would lay down my life for my son - adopted or biological.

Answer 3

These answers are obviously going to vary quite a bit...

We have 2 biological children and 3 adopted.  I often think about our next child... how he or she might arrive.

Both ways of welcoming our children have been special.  They all have very different stories and personalities.  I think if it would have been up to me to configure our family, it would not have worked out so well!

For me it's not a question of which I would rather do - birth or adopt a child.  But rather who is this next little person going to be can become and add to our family.

Answer 4

adopt because so many children need homes.thank you ponytail your right they are our own children.get sick of ppl asking if her mama and daddy get to see her.my response to that is yes we see her everyday.why some ppl think there not your own children is beyond me.i dare anyone to tell us our little angel aint ours.those are fighting words.

Answer 5

I would definitely adopt again!!!! Oh and it is my own baby, just didnt grow in my tummy but in my heart.  There is no physical reason why I can not get pregnant and deliver a child.  I was adopted myself and have always known that this is the way I will build my family.  It certainly would be a lot easier to get pregnant than to go through the hassles of adoption-but I still choose adoption.  Best of luck!  Sheri

Answer 6

I've done both.  If I were going to be having more, I think adoption would be better for me, because pregnancy was hard on me, and the newborn period was as well.  I am 45 years old, and I don't know that I would have the energy or strength for that again, although I seriously do miss nursing my baby sometimes.  Our older daughter was adopted at 14 months, so all the hardest stuff was over with already.  It's funny how fast she seemed to mature and develop.  :-)

Answer 7

I would definately do it again but i would also love to have a child of my own!

Answer 8

Do I feel like I missed out on pregnancy, feeling him move inside and nursing him to sleep?  Absolutely!  Do I feel like my son is any less my son because of those things?  Absolutely not.  He is "my" (I should say "our") son no matter where he came from.  He is my world and I would do anything for him.  I would adopt a thousand times to feel the love I have for him.  I would still love the chance to experience pregnancy and all the wonderful aspects of it, but I couldn't care less if the child I love shares my biology or not.

Answer 9

Well, it's an interesting question, but it kind of depends on the circumstances imo.

For example, if someone adopted their child, by wishing they had had a biological child instead, that child wouldn't be their child anymore...plus, it depends on the person's reasons for adopting.  If they adopt after experiencing fertility problems, their reactions may be different to someone for who adoption was a first choice....I hope that makes sense!

For my part, I'm choosing to be a foster parent rather than have a baby, because that's what my heart tells me is the 'right' way for me, and the best experience I can imagine for having children, so I seriously doubt I'll ever have any regrets or second thoughts.  Good question though!

Answer 10

That's an interesting question.  I'm not an adoptive parent, but have good friends who are. They tried desperately to have their own baby...but couldn't conceive.  However, they were given the opportunity to adopt two wonderful children shortly after their birth.  One was three months old when she came to them, the other was one month old when he came to them.  They are now 12 and 8 and are wonderful kids.  I think the answer for some people would be that they couldn't imagine their lives withou their adopted children....and if they had been able to have their own....they wouldn't have had the adopted children.  Does that make sense?