To strip or not to strip, that is the question...

Question

Ok to start off I don't want anyone calling me a w***e, s***k, etc. I will report you. I just want some opinions..

Ok so this might be slightly long so bear with me. I'm 20 years old, very happy in my life and the person that I am. I moved out incredibly young and have had to support myself since I've been 16. I haven't gone onto further my education since high school because of financial reasons. I live with my fiance' and we are barely making ends meat. I'm worried because in 2 weeks he will be out of a job, and I just left my job because we moved into another city 2 hrs away.

Anyway. I'm sure I qualify for some grants for school but the thing about it is I used to work 2 full time jobs just to pay bills and everything and I'm not sure how to fit in school in that time period. Theres only so many hours in a day and my work schedule used to vary so much. I only have about $5,000 to pay off my apartment until my lease is up in June. If I pay that off I only have a few more bills so I could work a heck of a lot less and than go to school, which is what I want to do so very badly.

The only way to get that kind of money, that fast, would be to strip?? It wouldn't be a full time thing. I'd just go on Amature night for a few months if that. I've never been to a strip club and it would probably be incredibly degrading. If I did the amature thing I wouldn't have to do lap dances or get completely naked. My fiance' isn't thrilled but it isn't out of the question.

I probably sound incredibly retarded but I'm sick of working my life away at a job I'll never get ahead at. I just want to go to school and get a job I like and can support myself with.

I just want opinions. Whats it like to go to a strip club? Will I hate myself for it? etc. Please don't write nasty things. I'm a good person, I'm in a committedd relationship, I don't sleep around, I'm just sick of being broke.

Answer 1

Do it- it's easy money. Just don't do it in a dive where there's only crack whores and s****s.

Do it in a club that can offer wealthier clientele. I did it to get through college, make ends meet while in the Army and for closing costs on my first home. It's easy cash and you can make a lot of it! Take your tips how you are comfortable.

Be careful of where you do it and who knows if you are going to be in the education feild someday.

Answer 2

I lived with a stripper (they prefer the term 'dancer') for 2 years, and was romantically involved with her.  I never really had a problem with her job, but a lot of guys do.  

The main 'downside' to it was the lifestyle. Late nights, lots of booze and drugs are readily available, and if you don't have the right mind-set, it's easy to get distracted from your goals in life.

However, the busiest nights at a club are the weekends...which means you could work just 2 or 3 nights a week at the club.  Since you would mostly make cash, you wouldn't have to report the income.  This would qualify you for student loans and Pell grants.

There is nothing wrong with being a stripper.  If guys want to toss you money because they like the way you look, so be it.  It doesn't have to be 'S****y'.  It's just a way to get what you want out of life.

Answer 3

You sound like you've got a reasonable head on those shoulders so I would say just go with the flow. Just be cautious with the strip clubs you go to. In fact before applying at one you'll have to audition. I suggest you find a few strip clubs 1st and then sit in on a few of them a couple of times to get a feel for them. If you find the atmosphere to your liking, strip away. A lot of girls do come through with this kind of life.

Just remember not to get to attached, and even if your fiance is ok with it now, he may not be later on.

It's a big decision, but I'm sure you'll do what's best for you.

Good luck and email if you have any questions

Answer 4

Don't feel bad sweetie. This is one of those situations where stripping is your only option. It may not be degrading if you go to a nice strip club. Some strip clubs are ghetto and out-of-control, so make sure you visit the club before you actually go to make sure you'll be comfortable.

I have never worked at a strip club, but my best friend did to support her mom when she had cancer, and the strip club she went to was very high-class and was not degrading at all. It was topless, but the men were not allowed to touch and it was strictly watching only. It was like a movie- only watch and don't touch. They weren't making any rude comments or anything.

I don't think you will hate yourself for it. You did it so that you can keep a roof over your head and be able to live. I wouldn't hate myself for it and you shouldn't either.

Good Luck!