To the parents - Did you want to know the gender of your unborn baby?

Question

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Answer 1

I think it should be up to each individual set of parents whether or not they want to know the s*x of their unborn child.

Answer 2

I didn't wanna know with my 1st baby but i would with my second

Answer 3

My first, no I didn't. Though, I just knew he was a boy anyway.

My second, I did. I'd done the excitement of the suspense and I wanted to know. It was actually just as special and exciting both times.

Though, the reason I chose to find out with my second was purely practical, having had a baby a year before my little one was due, it made sense to keep and re-use his stuff, so if Caleb had been a girl I'd have had a lot of rush shopping to do!!

Answer 4

I have found out the s*x of my babies twice! I have one boy and another boy on the way due in just over a week.

And both times i was over the moon!

I woudl have been just as happy if i was having a  girl tho. As the previous person said as long as the baby is healthy then its all good!

Answer 5

nope i was quite happy to be suprised

Answer 6

I never found out the s*x of either of my children until the birth although I was tempted to ask! I have a boy and a girl who are now both at secondary school. My new partner and I are trying for another child and I don't think I would be wanting to find out this time either.

Answer 7

As long as the baby is healthy is what I always said. But when I was pregnant I was dying to find out what I was carrying. I found out at 22 weeks I was having a little girl. Now I have a 4 month old baby girl.

I think it is stuipd when a family wants one s*x to carry on the family, no matter what the future generations are still going to be their relatives.  

Answer 8

No, I would really not have liked to have known.  If I'd known I think I'd have had preconceptions and speculated on what my son/daughter would be like, whereas not knowing you start afresh without preconceptions.

It's awful that this technology is being used in many parts of the world to abort female babies, whatever sorts of controls are brought in there is always going to illegality and profiteering slipping through.

Once a technology has been invented there is no going back and issues have to be faced about its beneficial use and misuse.

In a way I think parents should only be told if there is a risk of genetic disorder related to gender, but then if the doctors and nurses know, and they believe the parents will not misuse the information it's maybe asking them to be a bit patronising to keep it secret.

Answer 9

No, I didn't want to know. I like surprises, and as for buying clothes, I think all babies look best in white.

Answer 10

Absolutely! It makes planning for their arrival much better. WIth both my children we found out via ultrasound their gender. As a result we could spread the cost of buying things for them (clothes, furniture, etc) and preparing (painting the bedroom) over months, instead of the panic of buying things immediately afterwards.

The most ridiculous argument against this is, "Don't you want to be surprised?"

My answer was always, "I WAS surprised... just earlier."

Answer 11

I found out with my 4th! It was great knowing!

Answer 12

I asked both times because I'm an overly excitable person and I just could not bear the suspense.

However couldn't tell either time because of the way they were lying.

We are a family of women ( my mum is one of 7 girls,) and they all went on to have mostly girls so it was no surprise that my first was a girl.

My second we all assumed the same again..I even bought loads of girly things, I wanted and expected another girl.

When he came out my very first words were' I don't do boys' The midwife said ' well you do now'....

I find people embarking on a 'quest' for a boy/girl truly abhorrent. A child is precious beyond belief whatever flavour!

Answer 13

I waited with my first, but found out with my second. I was just as excited when each of them was born.  

Answer 14

I like surprises.

Answer 15

My mum did. I guess it gives you a clearer idea of how to prepare for the unborn. You should have told the nurse you wanted to keep it a surprise so she wouldnt do it next time :p

Answer 16

Well, we had three girls and all were welcomed into the family - we didn't want to know....why spoil the surprise ? !

Answer 17

yes but they wouldnt tell at the time, hospital policy, i never wanted boys and so i tried for girls and luckily i got two. all the boys in our family are stillborn, die shortly after birth or are retarded so you can understand why. also girls are just prettier with all the lovely pink stuff lol x

Answer 18

I did not have a choice when I had my children in the 80's. I think if it was now, I would be curious and feel tempted but I hope I would wait for the suprise.

Answer 19

yeah I wanted to know, I don't like suprises

mine was embarrassing because the sonographer said It's a boy and my boyfriend shouted 'bloody h**l it's huge already'

I nearly died

Answer 20

As long as the child is healthy I don't think it really matters what gender they are although it is nice to know but not that important.  

Answer 21

yep i wanted to know for both of them! i was too excited to wait!

Answer 22

Hi Faith

I don't have any preference for boys or girls - I've enjoyed all four of my children, with the differences between the sexes at times surprising me, but always with delight.'t.

But ... my first child was a boy and when I fell pregnant again, I surprised everyone by saying I wanted another boy, to provide him with a ready made friend.  My third child was a *"surprise" but her sister wasn't.  My two boys had worked so well, I wanted a little girl.  I followed recipes and planned my little girl.  

Everyone I met told me I was carrying a boy, (old wives tales) but to my utter delight my daughter was born - to her sister's bemusement.

They still don't get on, unlike their brothers.  So that was a plan that did not work.

So yes, there are times when I have wanted to know!    

Answer 23

ye, i knew we were having girls,cos i wanted to

know, i don't understand why they would want

an abortion because it's a girl, makes no sense

to me, a life is a life.  

Answer 24

Yes to make shopping for me easier but did not tell anyone so that it can be a surprise to them.

Answer 25

I wanted to know with my first 2 but the way they were lay it was impossible to tell but with my son I had to have an amniosentisis and from the results of that I knew I was having a boy, but to be honest I just wanted my children to be healthy .

Answer 26

No, I didn't want to know, (I like nice surprises) lol

all that bothered me was, were they going to be healthy.......

Answer 27

I didn't ask but I just knew in myself that I was going to have a boy, which is why I only had boys names in my mind, not girls...

Answer 28

I think I would prefer to wait until the birth to find out the gender.