To those on the "list"?

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I have a question/suggestion those here who are on the list. Have you considered creating a website for yourselves that provides this information. A website that gently teaches adoptive parents, birthmothers, adoptees, hopful adoptive parents about the reality of adoption. Not a black and red "Death to adoptive parents" website but an informative place for all to visit. You could also provide state listing of all government and private agencies available for expectant mothers who are considering adoption.. There are way to many programs out there that any mother should be considering adoption for financial reason alone. A forum for each would be nice..a place for adoptees, and another for hopful parents. Link on everything from name changing to stories both good and bad. I also think that this would help a lot of you in dealing with some issues you may have in regurds to your own adoption..Perhaps the healing process can begin when you feel heard and are helping mother's keep their

Answer 1

Adoption Oasis is a joke, theres like 2 adoptees and the rest are aparents there. You're not going to learn anything if you stick with your same kind.

birds of a feather... flock together

Marshas site is GREAT!! Very informative. I am building one also with more of an anti-adoption meets family preservation approach :)

Answer 2

The Adoption Oasis (www.taoforumnetwork.com) is an excellent website that provides a place for all sides of the triad to come together to discuss everything under the sun without the fear of being involved in any heated or disrespectful exchanges.

Adoptees, Adoptive Parents, Foster Parents and Birth Parents, as well as siblings or extended family members touched by adoption, are all welcomed, accepted and treated with enormous respect by all community members.

The site has a lot of very insightful discussions, sharing of information between triad members, and a great feel of community.

I highly recommend it!

Answer 3

You know I think that is a great suggestion for people with a conscience.  Really, not trying to be a pessimist here.  I am all for helping others.  I just think that SOME of the people (not all) on "the list"  are just much to filled with anger to be able to "share" a website with people that believe adoption CAN work and it is not ALL bad.  People who send me emails like:

"adopt-with-love is an infertile out to steal someone else's baby. Why do you insist on going against nature by not accepting your infertility? This was no 'mistake'. You are a spiteful, unkind, and shallow woman. Oh, and a terrible speller to boot. I feel soooooo sorry for the child in your home. I pray he finds his REAL mother someday!"  

Your "website" would be CRAWLING with people like that looking for more prey......hey you know...similar to like what they do here.  So, not to offend you as it appears you have put a lot of thought into a very good idea, I just don't think that "logic and reason" can go simultaneously with people who are fascists regarding the adoption issue.  I know..............WHO KNEW!!

Answer 4

soulofadoption.com supports people from all sides of the spectrum. Debates can get heated because the site allows for all sides to come together. Members of all sides get grumpy about that... however there are a lot of moderates and a lot of opportunities to educate ones self. The majority of members at soul of adoption are adoptive parents.

Origins USA offers a lot of support for new mom. If an expectant mom says she is afraid she doesn't have the resources to parent and contacts any one there, she will be guided to as many resources as possible.

There are many more websites linked through origins that help connect expecting moms with support.

Answer 5

What a wonderful idea, I am curious as what others say because I know that I do not want to adopt a child whose mother gave him up because she couldn't afford formuls or diapers..and I do agree that if the mother can parent she should.

Answer 6

It would need to be moderated to ensure that it doesn't get taken over by the "Adoption is Beautiful" or the "Adoption is Evil" crowd.

Personally, I support a well planned and ethical adoption process.  I am not naive enough to think that it is all butterflies and rose petals, and I know that there are unethical people out there.  

This website would be very helpful.  However, as you have noted, many birthmoms decide to place their children up for adoption because of financial reasons.  They may not have access to the internet.  Unfortunately, they are probably the ones that could benefit the most from such a site.

Answer 7

I work on several sites that do this. I am also working on a new site called firstfamiliesunited.com. Right now we are still adding content so only a contact page is up. I personally tend to work on resources for pregnant women and revocation. If you look at my answers they are almost all on those 2 subjects. I focus on them because they are what I know from personal experience. The problem with the list is that it is biased. Half the people on it aren't even anti adoption. And even if they are, why do they have less right to be here? Personally, I am not leaving because someone put me on a stupid list. I will continue to answer questions if I feel I can help. I suggest we all learn to live with each other because I doubt many of us are going anywhere

Answer 8

I actually have created an adoption information website that speaks about the dark side and deeper issues. I've linked to it a few times here when I've thought it was relevant. Its mainly for international adoption since thats where my knowledge lies, but several of the articles can be for any type of adoption. Its even in my profile that I have done this. I don't make any money off of it, I just use it to try to help people.