To what extent are kids part of the reason a married life exists?

Question

Does life get boring-n-routine if you don't have any kids? Is it possible to find 'bliss' in a married life without kids... just you and your spouse living for each other till the end of time?

Answer 1

I think when you have kids you need to still find time to spend alone.  I have a friend who has 3 kids and her and her husband go out once a month (sometimes more) doing stuff they like.  The kids stay with their grandmother.  They have a great marriage.

I think anyone can fall victim to the day in-and day out routine..

If both people agree they don't want kids then you can be happy without them too.  My aunt and uncle don't have kids, never will.  My parent's friends don't have kiuds, never will.  They all travel a lot.  It doesn't mean you're bad people either (as both couples have heard MANY times).  Whether you have children or not, both are selfish decisions in my view.  You do both (usually) because it's what YOU want. (I didn't say they were bad decisions either. selfish doesn't always mean bad. so before people thumbs down me for saying that I'll explain it. lol)

Answer 2

Yes it is very possible many couples go through life never being blessed by children. If children mean a lot to you there are other ways to bring them into your life especially little children that do not have parents and need to be adopted. If you can both physically have children and one or the other does not want them it is not fair to the other person that desires to do so. But if I loved someone so much and they could not physically have them it would not be my only reason for not being with them because children do not hold a marriage together these days. It's the love between two people that keep a marriage ever lasting and what you both do to keep that love alive. I had an aunt that never had children with her husband and they were together for over 45 years and the day she died I saw the grief in my uncles eyes in the love he had for her. no kids ever and they had a wonderful life.