To young to be engaged?

Question

My boyfriend and i have been talking about marriage and we came to the decision that we would get engaged shortly. We plan on being engaged for a couple years or until I'm out of college. Is 19 too young to be engaged? we will be together 3 years around the time of engagement.

Answer 1

No. I am 19 right now and my bf is planning to propose. As long as your planning a long engagement it doesnt matter when he does it. Just make sure that he is the one that you want to spend forever with. And if he is go for it. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I think that younger couples have every reason in the world to wait to get engaged/married these days. It's good that you want to have a long engagement, but what's the hurry, you know?

My now fiance and I have been together four years, and we JUST got engaged. We'll be 26 when we gat married, and while we knew that we wanted to get married about a year into our relationship, we wanted to wait until we both had steady jobs, a nice place to live and we wanted to be more financially stable. And we're SO glad we waited. One, it makes it more special because you've been together longer. Two, it's so much easier to plan a wedding when you are more settled.

It's up to you both, though. I, personally, don't see the hurry. Women years ago were practically forced to get married right away, and many women become very unhappy because of it (the divorce rates now prove that). But then again, my aunt and uncle got married when they were 20, and they've been happily married for almost 40 years They do, however, say that they wish they had waited because the first few years were so, so difficult for them.

Answer 3

No, however, if you have to ask.....

Anyway, my guy and I are younger I'll be 21 soon, he'll be 20. We're engaged.  

Answer 4

No, I'm working on being 19 in a few days. And planning my wedding. I asked mine to marry me. lol. If you guys have been together 3 years and you think its the man you want to wake up to everyday for the rest of your life. Then do it. I see no problems with it.

Answer 5

no

Answer 6

it's not to young to be engaged. and it shows forethought and maturity on his part that he's even thinking about it.

3 years is a good point to get engaged at, and you'll have time to plan it, and think it through and save up for the day you want, not settle. Think about it this way, with you knowing you're going to wait, you'll have something to look forward to, something to work toward for a while and you'll be happy knowing you're not rushing any detail.

Answer 7

it's really not about the age, it's about the maturity level. Some 19 year olds are ready to be married before some 30 year olds.

Answer 8

Only you and your boyfriend can answer that question.  Being in a relationship takes work and dedication.  It requires maturity and a sense of responsibility.  These are not really characteristics that are reliant on age.  If you feel that you have what it takes to make it work, then don't worry about the rest.

Answer 9

It's young, but the fact that you plan a long engagement is a plus. I was engaged at 18, married at 19, and it wasn't a wise decision.

In the next few years the two of you will go through some more maturing and learn more about each other and whether or not a married life together is still the desire. Best wishes...

Answer 10

Not too young to be engaged. But definitely too young to be married. Have a very long engagement (3-4 years) if you both know you want to be with each other. Life changes people, and there's nothing you can do to stop that. Let time decide.  

Answer 11

I would say it's better to wait even if you are planning a long engagement.  I have known a couple of girls who got engaged when they were about 19 planning on a long engagement, but then changed their minds and felt they had to go through with the wedding because they'd promised it to him for so long.  They ended up getting divorced a year or two later.  The period when you are right out of college will most likely be a time when you do a lot of soul searching regarding what you want from life.  I would hold off until then to get engaged.  Good luck.

Answer 12

Yes, 19 is way too young.  You haven't even begun to live.  When you get married young your marriage is more likely to end in divorce.  What is the rush? If you really love each other then you don't need to rush.  Even if you get engaged now and get married in three years you will still be really young.  Everyone I know who got married at 21 or 22 has gotten divorced.  I was almost 25 and I am going to be married 15 years.  Those few years makes a big difference.  You want to leave your life and do a lot before you settle down to get married.  I had one boyfriend when I was 19.  He was my first.  I couldn't have imagined settling down with him.  I dated a few more guys before I met the one.  You want to be sure.   You don't want to have any regrets.  Marriage should be forever.

Answer 13

I don't think 19 is too young to be engaged.  Years ago women were already married and looking to have their first child at that age.  Congrat's on your upcoming engagement and the best of luck to both of you in the future!

Answer 14

That is entirely up to you, nobody else can make that decision for you.  In my experience I would suggest waiting until you are 23 at least.  However I don't know you and I'm not you.  If you are sure it is right and are willing to do whatever it takes to have a lasting relationship then go for it.

Answer 15

No, it's not if you are ready.  I got engaged at 19, and will be getting married two weeks before my 21st birthday.  You are an adult and can make those decisions, but if you are thinking that you are too young, then maybe it's not the right time yet.  Marriage isn't something that you go into lightly.

Answer 16

If you already think you want to get married but aren't going to do it until you're out of college (very smart, by the way!) then I would just wait to get engaged for a few more years.