Today 10 of my friends were invited to dinner...?

Question

Only one turned up. Am I the A s s or are they for not turning up, and for not even letting me know?

I was cooking for hours and a lot of food got wasted.

My Hubby said... Their Loss... As the food was good.

Answer 1

That's really rude!!  Some friends.  (My friends are desperately waiting for me to invite them over).   Unless they got the date or time wrong?  Who would turn down a dinner!!?  Most people nowadays don't go through the trouble-what fools!  Were they just late-did they get lost?  Did you call to see what happened?  I would want to know.  I can imagine you must be furious. At the very least, they should have called you if they couldn't come.  That's just common courtesy.  (I know were strangers-but let us know what happened).

Answer 2

So sorry that happened to you. Was this just for the girls or bring your hubby along (double dating)? Sometimes its just not the food they are going for...maybe entertainment or place or people.

Answer 3

What they did to your event can not be appreciated, however, please do not return the same treatment to them. Otherwise, this cycle of event will never stop.

Answer 4

they seem stupid-a good guest calls and says they are not coming. Stupid people dont..exception are family emergency

you did fine. Your husband is right, it is their loss

Answer 5

Why should YOU feel like the idiot?  Their behavior was rude, ignorant,  and unforgivable!  At the very least, they should have called to express their regrets.  The next time you invite someone to your house, whether it is for dinner or just a get-together, do call them a day ahead to confirm that they are actually coming so that you won't have to repeat the experience.   (And I would never again invite those people who didn't show up or call you.)

Answer 6

people are just terrrible at R.S.V.P. ing Just make things that won't go to waste.  you shouldn't feel bad that you took the time and paid the money to do something nice. hubby is right that it is their loss! I am a caterer and the last two events the hosts had me cook for 150 and only 50 showed up. people just are so busy that they forget about the effort it takes to host other folks.

Answer 7

I can't tell you how much I sympathise... this has happened to me a couple of times and it's unbelievably upsetting/annoying/angering... and incomprehensible to me.

I will never understand how people can think it's acceptable to just not turn up to a dinner you've said you'll attend.  The hours of prep (not just cooking but probably cleaning the house, etc.), the money you've spent on food & wine, and the energy you've invested, not to mention your complete deflation when nobody comes.... totally inexcusable.

I hope you won't be inviting these people again!

Answer 8

yep that would somewhat bum me out too...next time i guess you need to follow up with them prior to cooking or buying all that extra food....just tell them you were seeing how much you need to prepare and you want a confirmation...try not to dwell on the fact they were a no show..and certainly don't let it hinder your friendship....but i can understand your disappointment ...and remember hubby has a point...and it looks like you won't have to cook the next day or so...enjoy the leftovers :)

Answer 9

Just out of as a matter of respect, it would have been nice for them just to pick up the phone and let you know before hand that they were not attending. Of course preferably before you started preparing and cooking. I appreciate the hard work you must have gone to so in the future only invite the genuine friends. As your husband says....."It's their loss" but it undervalues your generosity.

Answer 10

You must have been devastated, I have a dinner party every Monday evening and I cook for  from 5 - 10 people at a time.  I know how frustrating it can be when someone doesn't turn up or if they are late and you are running to a time schedule with the courses. I usually serve three courses, but I have learned to take the disappointments on the chin.  I open my home to missionaries every Monday evening and enjoy their company and make a family night of it. but sometimes People do not turn up or they are late.  So I fully sympathise with you when only one turned up.  I know how hard you must have worked. Did they ring to let you know or did they just not turn up?.  I have learned to be frugal with the leftovers from my Monday nights I usually have them for dinner through the week. If necessary I freeze them to keep for another time.

I hope this helps you a little.

Answer 11

This is terrible I hate when I plan something and people don't let you know something. I started using "rsvp's" Anyway you're definitely not the A S S the ones who didn't show up are very disrespectful for not letting you know something, put them on your "Do Not Invite List!" Only thing you can do now is try to forget this day don't even mention it to your friends and if they bring it up make sure they know how they made you feel.

Answer 12

your not an idiot the food was good,don.t invite them again.Anyway they cant appreciate good food,as all they eat it tacos,or mcdogels,so ******