Today I found out something disturbing about my neighbor what to do?

Question

Five years ago when my husband and I moved into our house we noticed that the father across the street is very vocal. We were told by the neighbors next to us that he is a single father trying to do his best for his three girls who pretty much run wild and that he is just a very loud person but means well. He was divorced from his wife who from what i hear was crazy which i do think is true because yesterday she was outside their house talking to a tree.... Anyways our neighbor told us that the people next to him called child services on him a few times and they never found anything wrong and said that is all they see is a father trying to do his best for his girls. The oldest and youngest take after their mother. Okay to the point of this question my cousin last year started hanging out with the oldest who was 15 at the time because she felt bad for her not having any friends. The girl told her one day that she still takes showers with her father. My cousin said she sounded like she liked doing this which to me if this is true she probably didn't know any better if it has been going on for a long time. My cousin stopped hanging around her after she heard this. I don't know what to think on this I mean could a 15 year old be making this up? Why would she make something so disturbing up? Or if it is true what can i really do when child services has been there so many times already and found nothing wrong?

Answer 1

If I were you I would call children's services again and state your findings. A yelling father and a father who showers with his 15 year old daughter are two entirely different concerns. They will probably investigate it further than they would have for simple noise complaints. Children's Services probably wasn't looking for sexual abuse when they checked it out the other times. Also, calling and just telling them might make you sleep a bit better at night, ya know what I mean?

Answer 2

try calling child services again and tell them what you found out

Answer 3

you said one of the daughters takes after her mother, maybe more then one daughter takes after her also.

YES! she does know better, unless this girl is a baby or toddler, then she does know it is wrong to take a shower with her father..  

Answer 4

It is very possible that the 15 year old has no idea that taking showers with her father is a bad thing. She could be emotionally stunted from her mothers insanity and the stress of a divorce. Also some children develop strong emotional ties with abusive parents, and that could be why the 15  year old likes it. They become totally dependent on a person. What ever makes that person happy, makes them happy. So if the father likes to bathe with his daughter, so will she.

Either way, this should be reported to Child Services. I was ask them to interview each child separately with a child psychologist. This family needs help.

Hope I could help.  

Answer 5

hmm, maybe tell child services what you heard from your cousin.

they mind find it interesting enough to investigate.

Answer 6

A 15 year old could absolutely make something like this up, just because she craves attention.  She could also be telling the truth.  Either way, this is a very unfortunate situation.  It sounds as if the whole family needs some counseling.  If you suspect child abuse, the correct thing to do is to report it to social services and let them handle it.

Answer 7

You need to let the local child services know what you was told.  So they can check into it then if that is true no telling what else could be going on.  On the other hand she is the oldest she maybe taking a lot of abuse so the other two do not get caught up in it.  It is wroth letting someone that can help know about it. Yes it could something the girl is making up but who knows.

Answer 8

This is concerning. I would definitely call CPS/Child Protective Services and report what you just learned about the 15 year old. The father may be sexually abusing hem and she with the rest of the sisters may not understand that its abuse.

Just so you know, when you call it can be anonymous if you don't wish to say your name. If you do say your name, the worker will never say where or who called.

Please call and do the moral right thing!

Answer 9

Maybe they are conserving on their water and gas bill.

I really dont see what the big deal is if hes not fondling her. Our culture is so tight a$$ed about nudity.