Today is the anniversery of the day we got the pink slip!?

Question

Our son's adoption was final nine years ago today. It's also our 14th wedding anniversary!

How would you celebrate?

Answer 1

Mommy2sq.

I will not bash you. I only bash those who think this is a heavenly thing. I can tell by your comments.. you already know what I am talking about. But you still choose to deal with them.

The repossession part... I'd have called a reporter... not that they would care.. but you never know... at least you might have had the chance to let others know how bad it was for you...

Just saying...

Answer 2

i would never celebrate the day for the "pink slip".  you would be celebrating the childs loss of his mother.

Answer 3

I am totally offended that a pink slip is even part of the adoption process. Adoptees aren't a freaking car?!?!?! ! This is totally offensive to me.

I would celebrate by burning it.

I don't see anyone BASHING adoptive parents, i see people speaking out against the idea that adoptees come with PINKSLIPS. last time I checked, AP's weren't in control of that.

Answer 4

I don't know, have a "pink slip party"?

Why not just celebrate your anniversary?  MANY adoptees have a hard time emotionally on their birthdays.  I'm grateful (truly) that this adoption day/gotcha/pink slip stuff was not in vogue in the 70s.

For me, highlighting that day would have saddened and embarrassed me.  Your marriage to your husband was a wonderful GAIN.  The lost of his original family was a tremendous LOSS for your son.

Why not go out to dinner and celebrate your anniversary?  I just don't understand the point of 'celebrating' the 'pink slip' day--is your son supposed to be grateful, and thank you for adopting him?

Sigh.

Answer 5

Hurray for 14 years of marriage!  I would want to celebrate with a special dinner--at home or out--as the mood strikes you.

But, do you really celebrate "pink slip" day?  I can't even imagine how that makes your son feel.  All I ever wanted as an adoptee was to fit in and be normal.  Having the day I was adopted celebrated would only re-enforce--with balloons and a cake--why I was not.

Answer 6

Congratulations.

Go out to dinner.

Maybe Chuck E. Cheese your son will love it and it can bring out the kid in you and your husband.

You could also make surprise grown up date at home with your husband after your son is in bed.

Get some of his favorite desert, a massage, or bubble bath.

Answer 7

Have a wonderful family day with your son.. Take him out to lunch or dinner, Go to the zoo, or Aquarium... just have fun as a family!.. Take lots of pictures..Congrats, good luck, and enjoy, Time flys so fast!

Answer 8

I'd go out for Hibachi dinner - it's an event everyone enjoys.  Then rent a movie to watch together.  Or a Dave & Buster's type of thing - video games and dinner.  CONGRATS!!!

Answer 9

I think you should celebrate your anniversary and celebrate you son's birthday on his birthday.

While I disagree with the militant "ALL ADOPTION IS HORRIBLE AND ALL ADOPTION SHOULD BE STOPPED" mentality that a few people have on this board, I do agree that celebrating the day his family of origin dissolved is a little...I don't know...ick.

The thing is, his family most likely dissolved long before you got the adoption finalized...and as an evil terrible social worker, I know what you and his birth mom are celebrating...no more visitations, no more monthly checks, no more forms, no more court....just you guys going on with the family you created WITH his birth mom.

You know what would be healthier...celebrate that EVERY day...let his birth mom be a part of that throughout his life...don't make a special day that points it out all the time.

Answer 10

I think celebrating this day is wonderful.  I like that you celebrate the day it was finalized rather than when the when he came.  Congrats, take him out for fun and enjoy your family!

Answer 11

I thought you got a pink slip with the purchase of a car.

Wow, you learn something new every day.

Have a good anniversary but I wouldn't celebrate the boy's loss of his mother, no.

Answer 12

I would have a party or your son then later you and your husband can celebrate your anniversary. Congratulations !

It's a great feeling I know, We just celebrated our daughters adoption March 8th she's 9 years old and this was our 2nd year.

Answer 13

I've never heard "pink slip" before.  

Congratulations on your anniversary!  And if your son wants to celebrate today as well, then more power to him.  Some adoptees are fine with celebrating their adoption day, others are not.  You know your son.  Nobody here does.   If he wants to do something special to commemorate it, fine.  If not, that's fine too.

Answer 14

Congratulations!  I remember that day as it were yesterday.  My son came home in 8-2005.

You should ask your son if he wants to celebrate and ask what he wants to do, if anything.

(Basically, in adoption terms, getting word that a PINK SLIP was done, is when adoptive parents find out that their child is free to come home after being in a temporary international living situation after their natural parents chose an adoption plan for their child.)

Answer 15

pink slip???  whoa. that's deep. i thought you got those when you got fired from a job. or got the title to your car.

ps. happy anniversary.