I’d like to take a forward step in my relationship with my boyfriend. We’ve been friends for 2 years and serious for about the last 2 ½ months. He has 2 young kids that he’s afraid to introduce to me. He wants to do the right thing. He wasn’t married to their mother but they lived together since the children were born. (The children are 1 and 2 ½ ) The other is 14 and lives with my boyfriend’s sister. I understand it’s a huge step and there are boundaries and it needs to be handled correctly. However, I think a lot of his hesitation is in fear of the mother (who likes drama and is a little on the psycho side). Kids that age start talking about “daddy’s girlfriend†or even “friendâ€Â. His ex knows my name and is definitely the jealous type. She’s not ready to let go of him. I very briefly met his 2 yr old and she kept asking him about me and “Destinyâ€Â. (My 2-year-old god-daughter that was with me at the time). So I’m sure he fears the mom not liking the idea of her kids being around another woman.
He knows how much I love kids and sees how well I interact with them. I don’t have any of my own but I’m always adopting others for the weekend. My suggestion to him is that it’s better for his young kids to understand “daddy’s house†instead of just thinking daddy’s not coming home and wondering why. They’re daddy’s girls anyway so they really should be able to come over to our house and spend time with him in a healthy environment. Their mother has 4 other children and their house seems like it’s probably chaotic most of the time.
Any suggestions? We want to know what’s best for the children, considering how young they are. And yes, we are in a committed, long-term relationship. I’ve been in the picture, just never able to take it to another level because he was afraid he was a bad dad if he wasn’t living at home.
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