Told I was to nice by my boss...?

Question

hey, im an 18 yr old female daycare worker. I have been doing this job since about October. It is a very stressful job let me tell you, many times I have gone home in tears just from pure frustration. My frustration comes from the children not listening and misbehaving. Today I was approached by my boss, and was basically told I am to nice and need to be more assertive with the children. My predicament is that we are constantly told we cannot yell at the kids. And even when I do raise my voice, they refuse to listen and just tell me I am mean. Like today... after I was told to be more assertive, there were a group of girls on top of a table and i said "Girls can you please get off the table" ... 2 sec later they called me mean. And my boss was like "she asked you guys nicely, she's not mean.... ughhh what should I do? maybe just give up and get a new job

Answer 1

you do need to be strict! Especially when it has to do with things that could potentially hurt them. If you asked them to get down, and they call you mean, thats ok! Its better than them falling and getting hurt when it could have been prevented. It doesn't mean you have to be mean, you just have to be persistent and let them know that you are the boss. Kids get over these things within 30 seconds! If you are so sensitive to where if a 3 or 4 year old calls you mean and you get upset, maybe it is time to look for a new profession!

good luck :-)

Its not very often someone tells you that you are too nice lol

Answer 2

I could not work in a day care center.. You have to be strict with kids. You do have to be assertive, but you have to be careful in a day care enviorment, becasue they are other peoples kids. I would get another job, it would drive me crazy

Answer 3

i started working in a day care on monday and the kids dont listen 2 me but they listen to the other to workers. it is hard cuz i kinda think the kids try 2 take advantage of me cuz i dont yell like the other workers do sometimes... i just dont feel comfortable yelling at kids that are not mine or family... especially wen the kids  tell me no or they refuse 2 do something.... you just have 2 let them kno ure in charge n you mean business... i love kids trust me i do but its hard wen its 9 kids at a time.... im in the same boat ure in so were in this 2gether good luck by the way im 19...:)

Answer 4

Good lord! Sounds like your boss is running a wild free for all! This is exactly why you couldn't PAY me to put my kids in daycare! Yes, I'd find a different job. Even try a new center, that one sounds poorly run, and just a bunch of wild kids!