Tonight is the night i make the call?

Question

tonight im calling my ex. we dated for two years, i get pregnant, and he gets another girlfriend! all ive been doing is crying. tonight i am calling him! i know ive been not sure if i should, but it would put my mind and heart at ease. he took her to a concert tonight.. and well i dont want to call when they are together so ill wait until he signs online. any advice on what to say, im making him feel upset, it works! im not kidding, hes very emotional i love it!! im pregnant so i was going to say talk, ill put you on speaker baby wanted to hear daddys voice, and go from there, is that cute?!! any ideas would be wonderful :)

Answer 1

You need to grow up before you have this baby otherwise I think the advice to abort was correct.  He doesn't want you, get over it.  He should be given a chance to be in the baby's life when that time comes but you need to deal with it in a mature and sensible fashion for your child's sake.  Let her have a daddy.  You don't have to have him for this to happen.  What you need to do is stop harassing him otherwise he is not going to want to see the child and the child will suffer more from that than anyone else.  You need to get some self worth and pride.  At the moment you sound pathetic.

Answer 2

I am not going to tell you what you want to here or want you dont want to here I am going to tell you what I think. Is this something you really want How old are you?

I had my first child when I was 18 years old and with out my husband there I am not sure how I would have coped.

It would have been better to have had that support from your ex but I am not too sure that he is too happy about the idea.

one day he will want to know his child and your child will too this situation  needs some time How far thru are you and how long did you wait to tell him?

Answer 3

so basically you are calling to start trouble? he doesnt want you or the baby as hes made that clear and your going to call him?why? he told you to abort the baby and you think you calling him is going to be cute? i really hope you grow up before you have this baby.

Answer 4

Oh honey, that is not cute. Your hanging onto something that no longer exists. I'm sorry. My daughter went through the same thing. It hurt me and I can only imagine how hard it was for her to go through her pregnancy and now raising a child that the father has written off as not existing. You need to concentrate your time and energy to preparing for this child. Or in raising this child if you have already had it. I'm not real clear on that. Anyway, Don't make the call. The outcome will not be what you want.

Answer 5

That doesn't sound cute, it sounds manipulative and repugnant. No offense intended. Do you really want him to be with you only because he feels guilty? Just stay present in his life (which you should since you'll be having his baby anyway) and if he comes around he comes around. There is no harm it letting him know how you feel about him knocking you up and moving on (that is a pretty slime-ball thing to do.) Or that you still have feelings for him. But if you guilt him into coming back to you he's just going to resent you for it and maybe take it out on you and your baby.

-Also its your choice whether or not to have this baby, I'm glad you're not letting them factor into it. If he doesn't decide he wants to be a part of its life there are plenty of other men who have room in their hearts for great children (just make sure they are there for you first!) My husband isn't the father of my first child (now age 7) but he treats him like his own and adopted him last August (my son's bio. father wasn't a part of the picture since he was 1), my son has known my husband as his daddy since he was 2.

Answer 6

Why would you have waited so long to have told him that you both made a baby? What do you think will come of this? Don't be surprised if he thinks he might not be the father since you waited all this time to tell him. If you expect him to respond maturely and expect him to be responsible then maybe putting him on the spot by having the baby and him on speaker might not be the way to go. If he is willing why not meet and let him see the baby eye to eye so that he can figure out the reason of the meeting.

Answer 7

Time out! I've watched back to back episodes of Maury Povich and I can stands no more!!!

Addendum: He and his parents gave you the best advice.