Too afraid to bother?

Question

I wanna try to find a dude this schoolyear but scared clueless.

I have a hunch on one person but to scared to ask about his sexuality.

Have you ever asked someone about there sexuality as a teen. Im afraid he might flip out on me. Everyone says, the best way to know is to ask. But that is also the cheapest yet most petrifiying way. I dont advertise my sexuality to everyone. Im afraid that I'll ask, he'll say no and freak, then tell everyone about me.

Has anyone even tried to ask about someone for a relationship when they were a teen?

Answer 1

Sadly, in high school, you often have to rely on non-verbal cues.

If there are any guys who you catch staring at you, but then they quickly glance away when you see them.

Or if they linger when looking into your eyes in a kind of magnetic or hypnotized gaze.

Or if they seem to be guys who touch guys they like.

Sometimes a certain thoughtful or more eloquent way of speaking, or a certain sensitivity of voice.

Guys who are more musical.

And who don't seem to have a girlfriend.

I know, that is so uncertain!  But if a guy seems to have some of these traits, make a friend with him.  At worse, he'd probably be a nice guy to hang out with.  At best, you might "recognize" each other and find much joy.

There was a guy I shared physical education with, we always sat by each other.  It seemed he always was, erm, a bit large.  We would sometimes kinda notice each other when changing.  He seemed very open, and we talked and joked a lot.  He also sat next to me in biology class, and one day with a dreamy gaze invited me to a sleepover.

"I don't wear pajamas" he murmured.  ;)