Too all mothers can you answer?

Question

Do you enjoy telling off your children

Does it make you feel good having authority over your child

Does it p**s you off that your child says somthihng which puts you in the wrong.

Ive done all that but my mother still goes on that mothers are always right thing.

I know my mum hates me cause I dont listen to anything she says because I always got something smart to say back

She want me to do chours- No because I dont make the need for them ie I dont mess up the house so I dont have to clean it.

She has no good argument against me only that Im living in her house which I say well if I could I would be out of here but im only 17

I wash my own clothes clean my own mess and cook my own food and I know this pisses her off its as if she wants me to be dependent to her somehow so she can do what I call parent black mail. Shell say I cook for you all that you should clean lol so no she cant black mail or use authority agaist me.

We aint talking for the last 5 years been talking then not even once not talking for a whole year

Are you the same to your children

Answer 1

I think that you should treat your mother with more respect. She could have had an abortion than there would have been no you to complain to her all the time about how right you are. Disobedience is not cute it's a way to have your days shorten. I think that if you resent your mum for something you should tell her and stop making her feel like you hate her. It's not fair to either of you. I love children and I am deeply sadden to hear that what both of you are going through. Now please, help her fix it.

Answer 2

I am sorry for you and your mum.

Mine's dead and I miss her telling me off, but she was never that bad.

Answer 3

Yes, you are exactly like I was as a teenager and now having children I can't wait until my kids hit that stage.  You live in the house you will clean whether or not you want to. You don't want to, then I'll just take away the car, and your game systems and leave you with nothing to do and not let you go out.  There is a certain amount of chores I will have set up for them.  I will expect them to do them even if they didn't make the mess.  If they have jobs, I'll be a bit more lenient, but not much because I have two jobs and still have to clean.  I'm a full time mom and I have a full time job.  I think once you have kids you'll understand. Until then, respect your parents and do what they say, even when you don't want to.  It's not black mail either...it's being a parent.  Welcome to the real world.  Wait until you're living on your own paying your own bills and making your own food, then it will all make sense.  By the way, if you were looking for sympathy, you asked the wrong question.  Not one mother is going to sympathize with an ungrateful child who doesn't know how good he has it.

Answer 4

I certainly didn't parent my children (7) in that way, however there were times when they thought I was a big meany.  Now that they are grown with children of their own they can understand why I did things the way I did.

If you feel that your mum hates you or that she is really wrong in what she does consider how she was raised.  I found that the things I disliked about my own were things she had to endure through her childhood.  We all have the power to change but many don't know what to change to.  Kind of like only knowing how to dance one dance.

Answer 5

woowww...

I HAVE THE BEST MOM IN THE UNIVERSE!!!!

maybe u just need to GROW UP!!!

Answer 6

You are old enough to live in her house and talk back to her, than you are old enough to help her out with the house like a man.

I would be disgusted with you, if you were my son. She did her best to raise you, and it looks like she's trying her best to make you into a responsible adult: One who will contribute to his home when he is married.

You are an ungrateful brat, it's that simple. Read some books, learn some empathy, and apologize to your mother for being a worthless human being.

Answer 7

nooooooooooo

Answer 8

It sounds like she has some depression to take care of. Sometimes moms go through that. You should try talking to her asking her whats wrong....why does she act that way with you. Get some answers out of her. I definitely don't act like that with my son but u have to understand that every mother is different so you cant really ask this type of questions and actually get a real answer from them. Just try to see what u can do for your moms its the best option u have. Good Luck Mama.

Answer 9

You seem to understand exactly how your Mother is with you, you know she is trying to make you more dependant on her when you are independant, and vice versa.  I guess if she has gotten more like this as you have gotten older she doesnt know how to just 'talk with you' like an individaul, without playing the 'I am you Mother card, and you must respect me!'  If your life is really bad at home, could you stay with another relative or something?  It does sound like you are pulling your own weight and taking care of your own things, so I am sure that when you can get somewhere else to live, you will do just fine.  And no, I dont think all mothers are like this, but some are more tricky than others! Good luck x  

Answer 10

wow... mommy must made u awfully mad

Answer 11

You only get one mother. Cherish her. Sometimes you may not understand where she is coming from, but you have to learn to deal with her. One day you may get in a situation where you do need her. Would you want her to tell you no? This may be a problem that you created yourself. You cannot always clean up your own messes. Family is everything. Sometimes that is all you have. Of course, I get upset with my mom from time to time. The older I got, the more I realized that there is nothing better than the priviledge to have a mother.

Answer 12

lol u get your stubborness from your mom i can tell. why dont you be the bigger person and sit down and have a heart to heart chat.tell her it bothers you the way you are treated but never blame her or put her down for the sake of respect. and it wouldnt hurt to help your mommy out wid chores now and then it builds character. also it would make her like you more. seriously she would leave you alone if you did nice things once in a while like take out the trash or just sweep the floor cuz it looks dirty. i hate scolding my kid it gets to be draining trying to teach her right from wrong but it has to be done. if not she wont know whats right she will be misguided. and yes teaching a young man independence is crusial. or any late teen should be treated with more independence cuz in a few years you will be on your own. so just appreciate the fact you have a mom cuz who knows she could die tomorrow and you would hate yourself for not talking to her. try to talk to her and acknowlege what she is saying you dont have to live by her word but atleast take it into consideration. im not sticking up for your mom but my mom died when i was 15 and i always wished i had motherly advice because no one will care about you the way your mom does and it is obvious after she is gone. so feel lucky that you have a mom. okay bye now.

Answer 13

You sound very disrespectful.  Parents don't like telling off their children or treating them badly.  They mostly want to teach them good life lessons and how to be responsible.  If my children ever act like you do, they are going to be sent to military school.  Your mother should have done the same.

And your mentality on maturity is exactly that of an immature teenager...

Answer 14

I remember being a teenager and having some of these thoughts.  You will never understand a moms love until you have teenage children of your own. She just wants you to be responsible. She means well. Be good to her. She deserves your respect.

Answer 15

Why would I enjoy ..telling off my children?  I love them and they love me and out side of a few escapes from doing chores...we have fun..I escape from chores too some times so I really can't get down on them too hard. I'm not a hypocrite ..but you are obnoxious and I hope I never make the mistake of answering one of you questions ever again.

Answer 16

No, my grown up children never answered me back in their lives and we have a very successful relationship now that they have flown the nest.  I help them with their children and they care for me whenever I need anything.  I'd have thrown your butt out years ago.

Answer 17

If what you say is true then I don't think your mom sounds at all like she is looking for arguments.  It sounds like she is expecting you to treat her with respect.  Which it doesn't sound like you are doing.  I think the better question to answer would be, why do you feel like you are above following the rules of the house your mother has provided for you?

Answer 18

Hey I have a great answer...

How about you go out and raise your own teenagers who are just as disrespectful and ungrateful as you k and then come back to us mother's including your own and apologise for being such an a.s.s..

You will never understand until you, yourself have been there.

Oh and thanks for pissing alot of us today and for reminding us how not to raise our kids..

Answer 19

please don't talk back to your mother, you will feel like c**p one day when you look back on it.

Your mom may just be going through some stuff that she doesn't feel like sharing with you right now or she may feel sad that you are growing up.

Answer 20

I find it really sad that you and your mother don't have a good relationship.  I have a great relationship with my children I'm happy to say.  We treat each other with respect.  I do not tell them I'm always right because that would be a lie.  I tell them I'm doing the best I can and that's what I expect from them too...to do their best.  That's all any parent can hope for.  

I do more things for my children than cook and clean, as most parents do.  I'm sure your mother does too and she doesn't expect you to pay her back for all she's given you or taught you or helped you with over the years.  She just wants you to learn responsibility and hard work.  You're going to have to do things you don't want to do someday.  She's preparing you for life, even if you don't realize that and even if she makes mistakes along the way.

No matter what, she's the only mother you have.  My opinion is to not take her for granted because she won't always be around.  You should work on your relationship.  I also don't think you are a brat or tough.  I think you're insecure, but have built up a wall, and trying really hard to show that you're not.  It's ok to need people.  You don't have to do everything on your own.  Not everyone will hurt you.

God Bless.  

Answer 21

I think fathers are equally well placed to answer this sort of question.