Too soon for marriage?

Question

I've been dating this guy not for about a year and a half. He started out as a rebound, I had just broken up with my (now) ex fiance of 3 years when we started dating. Hes a little older (27) and i'm 21, so his biological clock is tickin like no other.

I feel like I could spend forever with him... and he's been talking serious marriage now for a few months. He wants to marry me next year.

We're not engaged yet... but would it be a bad idea to get married after being engaged to another just a year and a half ago? Does it look like I just want to be married, doesn't matter who?

Answer 1

Its better than what I did, met a girl 1 week later moved in 2 months later she was pregnant 2 months later we got married and almost 2 years later we are getting a divorce. 2 years wasted! Just be sure though about your thing. Make sure this is what you want. If the feeling is there then he will be there too in a few years. There is no rush. I mean there is no grand prize for getting married! Just look at the celebs on tv. Marriage is nothing but a headaches and heart aches. The thing is do you want some one to give you excedrine for your headache or take you to a rock concert instead. Think about it.

Answer 2

Is it something you want or he wants? You have to think about what you want first..

Also, since he hasn't proposed yet, nothing is set in stone.

Relax, you have plenty of time before things get too serious!  

Answer 3

Only you know how you feel and after a year and a half I dont think you are still on the rebound from your previous relationship.

You would not still be together if you didn't love each other.

I would say do it and dont worry what anyone says, if you are meant to be together then dont let anyone doubt you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

From the wording of your question, it doesn't sound like you're ready to get married at all.

Answer 5

dont worry about your appearance to others. What really matters is if you two love each other and are compatible for marriage. I dont think that this is too early to get engaged. My question with regard to your resent past is if you really know for sure you could marry him and arent running off of feelings. I think you need to do a little soul searching and see if your relationship is good for marriage. Love is not the only reason to marry.

Answer 6

No, it doesn't look like you just want to get married.  But like the other person said... if you're not sure, then it's too soon.  It sounds like maybe he's more certain about marriage than you are (otherwise, would you even need to ask this question?)  I wouldn't worry too much about his biological clock -- that's a much more important issue with women than it is with men, and you're still young, so you guys should be fine if you do decide to get married eventually.

In a general sense, I don't think the amount of time you've been dating (a year and a half) is too soon to get engaged.  However, the fact that you're asking about it means that it is.

Give it a little more time.  If you two are supposed to be together, you shouldn't need marriage to keep you intact as a couple for another year or two.  You just need to ask yourself some serious questions.  Deep down, do you still have feelings for your ex?  Do you still feel like this guy doesn't measure up to what you could have had?  Do you still feel like he's just a rebound?  Even if you answer "no" to all those questions, just give yourself some time.  And don't worry.  You have time!

Answer 7

I don't know if it's too soon for you to get engaged or not.  I got engaged at 21 to my boyfriend of 20 months.  We got married 17 months after that so we were together for a little over three years when we got married and were both 23 on our wedding day.

I do want to point out one thing - your boyfriend's "biological clock" is not ticking.  He is 27.  Men are able to father children well into their 60s and 70s.

Answer 8

If you are not sure,,,,,, Then its too soon.  

Answer 9

You should get married whenever you want. Why wait, your in love, get married asap. Who cares what anyone else thinks. You can't please everyone. Follow your heart. Best Wishes. :-)