Too vain ?

Question

i heard the first step in fixing a problem is acknowledging it... and now im acknowledging the fact that I'm vain. here i said it. i always make fun of people who think of themselves as higher than others and i realized im a hypocrite. i can NEVER not look at myself when i pass by a mirror or anything that can show my reflection.... my chin is always high, a bit too high... i pity people who arent as beautiful as i am... always underestimate others' abilities... (but at least im not a show-off) ... and after all that i dnt think m arrogant.. am i ? be honest. please

Answer 1

Tony Cleaveland sounds like he's been reading too much manga. >_>

Answer 2

Not really, if u have an opinion and it is validated by engaging the very people sighted and besting by some standard, then yes...but vain may be another term for superiority. If, in fact, you are better, then vain is what is used by someone else (of a lower scale) to counter the offense.

Answer 3

You want me to be honest.....  I really doubt it, but here it goes.....

Have you ever heard of equivalent exchange?  Human kind cannot gain anything without first losing something of equal value.  To obtain, something of equal value must be lost.  

Your beauty comes with a cost.  You have given up compassion, modesty, respect, and self-purpose.  But I have a solution for you, get rid of your pity and look at people for what they are, not as you are now.  I am not handsome, but I have intelligence, perseverance, respect, compassion, and so much more.   There is no such thing as the total package.  No one obtains something for nothing, they think they do, but are mistaken.  

When someone gains something without giving something in return, they lose part of themselves without realizing.  Don't pity anyone because the people you pity have something you gave up to become what you are.

Answer 4

I think the question isn't are you "too vain" because you already say you are.

The question should be WHY?  Some might agree that it comes from a low opinion of themselves and vanity replaces that with false pride.

Answer 5

By asking the question, you have demonstrated that if you are arrogant, you will probably lose that unattractive quality. Congratulations.

I think a person can be more beautiful, talented, intelligent, rich and so on, without feeling superior to others. So much of what we have is the luck of the draw or genetics. You could be aware that you are fortunate to have been born with beauty without seeing those who were not, as inferior to you. You aren't a more valuable person than an unattractive women, you are just prettier.

I think the crux of arrogance is a feeling of overall superiority  - as a person- rather than a simple awareness of possessing some particular trait in great measure.

Do you think that you are better than others because you are pretty? Or do you just realize that you are prettier than others,?

I think it's fine to look in the mirror and be pleased with the physical you. It's even more important to be able to look in the mirror and feel good about how you treat people. How you look could change in an instant with a car accident. And it will change as you grow older. Who you are inside, is something that lasts.

Answer 6

Oh what  contrary beasts we become. Ok if you want to get a little philosophical here's the deal. Every thing you say you are not, you are. All that you make fun of, potentially some day may happen to you. It's true. I used to make fun of fat people. Look down on them. Having come from a family of all fat people, became anorexic for a long period of my life. I also used drugs to keep myself slender. I was freakishly skinny for most of my life. Then came the reality of heart problems from the life style came, and I had to come to terms with it. Now I'm imperfect. Fat by my terms. Lost all the beauty that I thought I had. Yes, all that you cherish about your looks can be taken away if you take it for granted or abuse it. Be graceful and kind. Be good and help others. Give of yourself to others selflessly. Do NOT make fun of others misfortune. God has a sense of humor. And Karma comes back to bite. I've said a thousand times or more, look beyond the surface and you may find a genuine human being underneath.