Top Contributors of Ramadan, is this a sinful feeling?

Question

السلام عليكم Peace be upon you.

As I got closer to Allah(swt), I feel I gotten further from my family.

They are Muslims, but some don't practice it e.g Praying.

(Praying)They do when they like, they stop when they like.

Things like dating, they treat it like it's nothing, no harm.

And for these, i developed this sense of "hatred" towards them, of their ignorance. Sometimes i get angry & frustrated, but theres nothing i can do about it.

Is this a sinful feeling? Of my hate towards them.

Serious answers please.

Answer 1

You should not explode your hate towards them.rather  sacrifice it in your heart.

I hate my father a lot nor i believe him as a 'Muslim'  but i never mistreat him or show disrespect/hatred towards him.

Answer 2

Walaykum Assalaam

I can understand how you feel as you want the best for them, and when one gets closer to Allah (swt) we automatically expect others to feel the same, but in reality it is not like that, be thank full Allah (swt) guided you to the right path, get rid of your hatred/anger since it will not benefit you, this happens alot in my family however do not hate them rather I dislike the act they are doing, why don't you be the bette person since you have the understanding of the Deen...?

Answer 3

Assalaamu 'Alaikum,

You must remember it is Allah alone who guides, so if now you are guided, you should be thankful and humble before Him.  Realize it is a favor from Him, so we cannot take credit for that.

You should hate acts of disobedience, not people.  This is for the heart that is attached to Allah alone.  Pray for their guidance, just as you pray for your own.  Remember, the 'wheel is always turning', meaning we do not what is the end of any of us.  In the famous hadith, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah upon him, said, 'a person will do the acts of the people of h**l, until the become an arms span from it, and then Allah will guide them and they will do the works of the people of Paradise and then die upon it and enter Paradise.'

Answer 4

wa alaikumusalaam. . you cant be arrogant towards your family, especially your family .. the simple answer in anything is how do you think that Muhammad saws would have reacted in this situation?  He didnt have harsh words for anyone, including those who were sinning against Allah .. he gave the best dawah and the best reasoning for all the advice that he did give, which is why he was so widely respected even in the non muslim community as Al Amin.

my family is shia, and the other half are complete kaffirs (ie not in the bounds of islam, do not pray do not fast).. naturally there are disagreements, especially when it comes to my children. i try my best to be very diplomatic with them and to not start problems, and when someone seems to be provoking me (my mother does this a lot) i simply ignore it because the prophet (saws) told us that even if your mother is a mushrika trying to take you out of islam, you still have to love her and respect her and i believe that hadith is from bukhari.

barakAllahu fiki, wa Allah yadiki

Answer 5

This is a type of Walaa wal Baraa. You hate them for the sake of Allaah due to their disobedience to Allaah. But you do not hate them as your family so you continue to deal with them kindly and call them to the religion of Islaam.  

Answer 6

alaykum as salam.  well they are your family and of course you cannot islamically turn your back on them or cut the relationship (unless they try to keep you from practicing Islam).  So the best thing to do is to be the best child/sibling you can be.  Show them a great example of a Muslim.  Keep the lines of communication open as well.  Do not give up on them.