Top Signs that Your Husband is Def. cheating...I don't need to hear hire a private detective.?

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Top Signs that Your Husband is Def. cheating...I don't need to hear hire a private detective.?

Answer 1

coming home late always making excuses on when he should be home secret call on his cell check the credit card debit receipts and phone records  

Answer 2

1. change in dress/grooming - tanning, going to the gym, showering immediate upon returning home

2. on the computer or blackberry all the time- late at night, slamming screens down when you come by, etc. PASSWORDS to keep you out. Phone becomes a secret too.

3. working late or doesn't answer the phone - with excuses like "out of area", didn't hear it, etc.

4. change in sexual habits. wants it more or less. Initially the cheating usually creates a desire for more because of thinking about it. As the cheating goes on longer, the relationship becomes more emotional and the sexual desire for you decreases due to guilt (for the partner not you) and not finding you so sexually desireable anymore.

5. change in personality - starts picking at everything, things that used to be fine to say or do now receive snotty nasty comments. He looks for fights to have an excuse to leave. He is withdrawn. You find yourself constantly asking whats wrong? He snaps at you for the most innocent question because you are invading his thoughts of her. He starts to look for things to be mad about to justify his own behavior.

6 change in music or songs he is listening to. Listen to the words they may tell a story.

7. if he travels change in flights - delayed, traffic, etc. FYI check to see if he's really on the flight he says hes on. He could tell you hes coming in at 10pm but really came in at 10am and spent the day with his mistress. Also if he travels, is he always out late at dinner meetings. Call him at the room instead of him calling you.

8. defensive behavior- when you catch him lying or back him into a corner he gets angry and yells "I'm sick of this sh** I'm not talking about it anymore." or "Fine I am s******g around, believe what you want to believe!!" This is to intimidate you into not asking anymore questions.

9, Withdraws from the family and suddenly has reasons not to do things with you, like visiting your family, or attending something with the kids. He wants the free time at home to contact her or meet her.

10. Kisses differently!! He is used to kissing her. Also doing something different in bed. Wanting to try something new, or a new trick.

11.  A female "friend" that is clearly inappropriate and you suddenly are not invited out with him and the gang.

12. Women's GUT INSTINCT - we pick up on the subtle changes in our men's behavior. Don't let him make you think your crazy.

There are lots of ways to catch him if you are really looking for evidence. Good luck! and sorry you are dealing with this.  

Answer 3

These are not signs FOR SURE. Nothing can tell you for sure unless you actually caught him in the act but some things to look for...

1) Does he keep his cell phone away from you, get very protective of it when he is around you, and seem to be on it at odd hours?

2) Does his work hours usually lead to really late nights and is he frequently going on so called business trips more then before?

3) Is he just not interested in s*x with you?

4) Does he find it more important then ever (or like when he first met you) to go to the gym, have nice clothes, and take forever to get ready to go out to work or where ever?

5) Has his attitude drastically changed?

6) Does he get really offended and super angry when you ask where he has been?

7) Have you caught him in lies in the past?

8) Has he cheated on you in the past?

9) Does he sleep in another bedroom?

10) Are their unexplained spendings on his credit card statement or large cash withdraws from his bank?

Alright although the top could be a number of things they usually lead to one thing...

He is cheating.

Good luck & I hope for your sake and the sake of your marriage he is not. Perhaps talk to him from the heart?

Answer 4

I would think that his attitude and routine changes.

Answer 5

a change in personal grooming habits

Answer 6

Stays away from home until late, gets strange phone calls. Look for lipstick on his cloths, the smell of purfume on his cloths, if he showers as soon as he gets home late. Is distant with you and doesn't desire intimacy with you like he once did. Take a day or two and see if he is where he says he is when he is gone.

Answer 7

Woman's intution :-).

Answer 8

He's breathing and has a p***s.

Answer 9

10. His feet smell

9. Ponderosa has gone out of business.

8. The Cubs win the world's series.

7. Geese fly north for the winter.

6. Lady bugs infest you bedroom.

5. Bacon grease on your toothbrush.

4. There is a clown running for the presidency on the Democratic ticket.

3. Every sock makes it out of the laundry unscathed.

2. Brett Favre in no longer a Packer.

1. You ask this question on Y! Answers.

Answer 10

unless you catch him in action you'll never be 100% sure,

he may have a girl/girls that he flirts with, or like the attention from, and is embrassed to tell you, but not really cheating

or he is secretive, and his daily routine changes unexpectedly.

or if you have that feeling

Answer 11

1. If he used to be a slob and now is don juan.

2. seems to be sneaking around and shady.

3. jumpy and answers the phone where you can't hear him

4. shuts the computer down when you come close

5. has lipstick on his shirt or smells like perfume

that's just some on the list

Answer 12

I don't need to hear hire a private detective.? Why not you would know 100% proof positive.

Answer 13

go with your gut

Answer 14

1-he becomes distant from you

2-he doesnt really "care:" no more

3-he goes out w.o u

4-theres a lot of times where u have no ideaa where he's at, or all the sudden he's hangin out too much or stayin at work late

5-he acts sneaky he dont let u see his phone or w.e

6-he doesnt take u out, he spends more time away from you

7-less or no s*x.. ( cuz he fkn someone else so he dnt wana fk u)

8-he does things that he didnt do b4

9- he doesnt tell u he loves u anymore

10- theres $ that u cant explain where it went . like 100 dollars out of the account and he didnt use it on u or him..

BUT if u think he's cheating , then 99% of the time, He is,  

Answer 15

He suddenly cares more about the way he looks, he keeps his cell on vibrate and acts suspicious when he's on it (or he leaves the room to talk), he has to work late, he's no longer interested in having s*x with you (that's probably the biggest clue).

Answer 16

1.Lives with his cell phone I mean 24 hrs a day he's texting or returning phone calls but walks outside to do it.

2.Coming home later and later after work.

3.Smells of a woman's perfume or he changes the way he dresses or is more concerned about his looks or he up and changes cologne.

4.He comes home with hair on his clothes and it isn't yours or he lives on the computer especially MYSPACE.

Answer 17

If he's kissing someone, that's a pretty sure sign he's cheating.

Answer 18

check the cell phone records and see if one number comes up numerous times.

Answer 19

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/isyou...

1. "I'm not in love with you anymore."

2. "We are just friends."

3. A sudden need for privacy.

4. “I need some space to figure my feelings for you.”

5. Regular work habits change.

6. Spending a large amount of time on the computer.

7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.

8. Behavior that just doesn’t add up.

9. Your own fears and suspicions.

...For me, I knew my husband was cheating on me when I couldn't find certain bills anymore (phone and credit cards).  Then, there was the mail just disappearing altogether.  Then there was the photo that fell out of his wallet.  Then I actually looked through his wallet and found a IM chat that he'd printed up where he told another woman that he loved her...

Answer 20

Gives you the same perfume his 'bit on the side' is wearing so you smell like her.

Works late.

Get's his friends to cover for him.

Invites her around last minute for dinner.

Goes out 'with friends' more offten

You find lipstick/strange perfume on his clothes.

His lies stop making sense.

He has no desire to be affectionate.

You both argue more.