Torn, looking for advice?

Question

My husband is practically BEGGING me for another child. I would love to have another child, but my son is only 9 months old! I feel as if he is still a baby and I don't want to have to 'push him aside' if we have another newborn. Has anyone been in this situation and can assure me it all works out? I love my son so much and you tell yourself you love him more than anything, anyone etc. everyone says you have enough love for another but is it the same? I guess I'm just looking for comforting words from mothers that have gone through this situation.. thank you so much, in advance!

Answer 1

Having babies so close to age is a good idea if you dont mind the chaos! They will always be competing for your attention and will feed off each others emotions! My sister and I are 9 months apart...and  we dont get along so well! Never have. Maybe if you work extra hard to show them an equal amount of love all the time and dont mind dealing with stressful situations like double the bath time, double the potty training, double the dirty diapers....then you'll be fine. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 2

i have a 6 yr old and waited 5 yrs to have my now 4 month old girl the oldest loves her to death but i think close in age for the next one....

now to answer your question my friend has a 6yr old , a 4yr old and a 2 yr old there is 18months between her youngest 2 and shee thinks it was great they have grown up together they are very close family and and just think by the time you have your next baby your now 9 month old would be nearly 2 and would love having a baby around he would be old enough to know and you wouldnt be pushing him aside i have a 4mth old baby girl and me and my partner were going to try again soon as it took 5 months to concieve her but we think im pregnant 1st month of trying so my youngest to will only be 12 months apart , but saying that you hae to do what feels right to you....i love my first and 2nd the same i might fuss over the little one more but my oldest does to and i love my little girl so much that i wanted to have another one im sure you will love the next one just as much it may be in different ways to your son now (especially if he is your first) but rest ashured most things always work out.........you will see you have enough love for 20 kids

Answer 3

I personally feel that would be very close in age. I have 4 kids and my last 2 are 19months apart and I just feel like that is to close, for me at least. I really like the 2-2 1/2 year apart age range, it's a little easier. Why is it that he wants another so soon? I love all my kids, you have more love in you then you think. There will be some days when one of them is just in a terrible mood and I might not prefer them that day, but you always love them, no matter what.