Torn between two dates...?

Question

My fiance and I were planning to maybe get married on the anniversary of our meeting, which would be July 25, 2009. But then we saw a wedding show on tv where the couple had this really cool Halloween wedding(kind of a mascaraed(sp??) ball). Halloween is somewhat significant to us as well, its our mutual friend's bday(she set us up) and its also my favorite holiday. Both of these dates fall on saturday next year, but now we're torn on when to marry. I kind of wanted a summer wedding so we could have it outdoors(the ceremony), but a mascarade ball would on halloween would be fun too. how do we chose?

Answer 1

can never go wrong with anniversary. I originally planned for sat but then changed it to our actual anniversary date that friday instead,  

Answer 2

I would have it in July. People may be annoyed that your wedding is on a holiday, even though they have every right to decline. If you close not to invite kids, parents may have trouble finding a sitter willing to take the kids trick or treating, or they may not want to miss out on the holiday with their kids since you only have a few when they kids can really enjoy it. SInce your daughter is at an age to really enjoy it,  I would think that you may also be a bit disappointed that you had to miss it with her. You could do a big masquerade the week before, it would be close enough not to be weird and it probably wouldn't interfere with other plans.  

Answer 3

Have it in July. People want to spend Halloween trick or treating, and you're either going to have a lot of people who decline, or who are annoyed about having to attend a wedding on a holiday.

Answer 4

I absolutely love Halloween! It's definitely my favorite holiday.

I think it would be really fun to go to a wedding on Halloween - but that's just me.

Have you decided as to whether or not you want to use your mom's house for the wedding?

If you are going to use your moms house then I think that it would be best to do it in the summer. If you do it on Halloween you will probably have to get a tent and bring in some heaters so people don't freeze.

I don't know. That is a really tough decision.

Answer 5

A Halloween wedding sounds wonderful! Here is a thought for your daughter. Scatter candy bars on each of the guests tables, and just have her and the other children who will be there, walk around to each guest table and say Trick or Treat! :)Have them come in costume if they wish, and a masquerade ball sounds fabulous!

Answer 6

Honestly... I'd pick whichever one would save you some cash.  Halloween is edging towards the end of wedding season and you'd likely get some reduced prices on halls, honeymoons, etc.

Answer 7

Is trick or treating in your neighborhood always on Halloween?  Some places do it the night before if it's not a school night.  Maybe you can find a neighborhood that does one earlier.  Or get a relative, brother, mom, etc. to take her just for an hour trick or treating.  They usually don't go longer than that anyways.  Or just ask her what she would like to do.  They usually dress up for school too, so that's celebrating it as well. My daughter was 4 1/2 when I remarried.   I had my brother do stuff with her at the reception because I knew she'd get a little bored and I'd be (and was) busy seeing and talking to all the guests.  She had a ball, but my mom took her home a little early.  I like the October idea.  Things are usually cheaper and easier to book in the fall.  Summer is really busy for weddings- and guests too.  Plus, then your meeting date will be a seperate celebration or thought from your wedding date.

Answer 8

The end of October is not considered "prime" wedding season (although it is increasing in popularity). You have so many inexpensive options for a Halloween type of wedding and do not have to worry as much about scheduling conflicts for vendors. If you are concerned about Trick or Treating, double check to make sure your city does them on Saturdays. Our does not, the last Halloween that fell on a Saturday we trick-or-treated on that Friday. Depending on the outcome there and if Saturday would be t-or-t, you could probably find a shopping center that is having an event for kids outside of that day and take her to that. If she is in kindergarten, they have trick or treating there at the school also. At the actual wedding, you could do a candy buffet or something along those lines which might appease her.  I'm sure that despite her age, she'll probably understand and be more excited for a huge wedding/party.  

Answer 9

Hi.  If it was me, I would pick the July date because I would want it outside.  Also, maybe not everyone would want to dress up for a mascarade ball.  And...then there is the issue of your little girl.

And.....you won't ever really be able to go out and celebrate your anniversary because your kids will always want to "trick or treat!"

I would definitely go with the July date.  Have an adult masquarade ball at your home if you want on Halloween.

Answer 10

Well, I had the same issue. Think about the future...is the date going to be a great vacation date? I think both dates are great, but I'm leaning towards the July 25th simply because it's summertime and you can basically travel anywhere for upcoming anniversaries! Although I have to say that October has beautiful weather too...but you don't want to share your anniversary with Halloween...remember when you have kids Halloween is all about Trick-or-treating with them and you may not be able to celebrate your anniversary. Hope this helps!

Answer 11

I think you should keep your wedding on your anniversary date, and then just throw a separate masquerade ball on Halloween, as just a Halloween party, not specifically anything to do with your wedding.  In fact, you could even throw it as a b-day party for your best friend!  It's not against the law to have two large parties in one year, after all- and if budget is an issue, just throw a smaller masquerade and it will still be fun.

About your daughter, though- trick-or-treating is quite important to kids her age, and I know I would have personally been devastated at that age to have to miss it in order to attend another event, like a wedding.  It's not about the candy- it's about the thrill of pushing the doorbell and saying "TRICK OR TREAT!!!!" and seeing how many different types of candy you get.  It's not like you can just buy her a bag of candy to make up for the experience.  Let her have fun that night, and get married in July.  And as for Halloween being your best friend's b-day, I think that's a good reason NOT to get married that night- not only will she have to give up any birthday plans of her own to attend your wedding, but every year after that you'll be unable to celebrate her b-day with her because you'll be celebrating your anniversary with your husband.

Answer 12

honestly that is up to you and as for your daughter being upest i think she might have a better time at a wedding than she would trick or treating--think about it she still gets to dress up, she still gets to stay up late PLUS she gets to dance and "party" with mom what could make her night any better?? (maybe give her candy that night too)

Answer 13

I have always dreamed of a mascarade ball.  But to do that I'd have to buy everyone's gowns because my family could not afford them. neither could any of my friends (all students).  I always think of doing something like the Mascarade ball in Phantom of the Opera. So over the top. but if you can do it I woould totally go for it.

EDIT: you could incorporate the trick or treating into the wedding somehow for your daughter.  It's usually about the candy more than anything. Use her as a flower girl and instead of her throwing flowers out, maybe you could have a few people in the pews give her candy instead.

EDIT#2: what about having someone take her trick or treating for an hour or so while the majority of your pictures are being done before the reception.  Have her stick around for a couple and maybe an aunt or cousin could take her to a enarby neighbourhood for an hour.  That way you guys can do your pictures without her whining or crying or all the things kids can sometimes do. (not saying she will, but kids CAN be unpredictable at that age).  Then everyone can enjoy that time.