Tough Family situation, how should I address this?

Question

Okay so my parents separated and divorced a little over a year ago. I live with my mom, I've never gotten along with my dad. Upon the divorce found out things about my parents relationship that pointed to something was never right. This woman contacted me on myspace saying that before my parents were married her and my father had a brief relationship that ultimately left her pregnant with my half brother. Anyway I want to discuss this situation with my mom but I don't know how to do it? Suggestions?

Answer 1

You do know that anyone can say anything on the computer and there doesn't have to be any truth to it?

I don't know why you are asking your mom about this, why not ask your dad? Frankly, their relationship and what happened in it, isn't any of your business.

If this woman contacts you again, advise her to seek out your father, my guess is you don't have any half brother and its some sort of scam.  

Answer 2

First of all, wait until your father says anything to you about this

This "woman" has the nerve to contact you over myspace and tell you something like that??  Sounds kinda spiteful

If you really want to know the truth you should discuss with your father first and see what he says, if you discuss it with your mom you may cause some hurt on her, especially if it's not true

In the meanwhile just be supportive to your parents as much as you can and wait for things to play out

Hugs:)

Answer 3

well i think you should speak to either your mom or your dad whoever ur half brother side of the family is from i know you have no contact with your dad and if not then just ignore the big issue is with your half brother not with your mom dad or you and anyway you dont even know where your father is so just ignore it and live you  life like you did b4 this ladt even spoke to u besides myspace...!!!

~best wishes~

Answer 4

Perhaps you should discuss it with your dad first. I know you said that you do not get along but it is probably not best to upset your mother should it not be true. I think you should be completely honest with your father and tell him that this woman contacted you, etc. Should he not want to hear any of it (whether it is true or not), I think you should tell your mom honestly what has gone on. I think it's best to be completely neutral and not to sound like it is fact at all. Tell her that "On myspace I received a strange message and this is what it said..." and ask her what to think of it.

Good luck :)

Answer 5

Is your mom really the best person to discuss this with right now?  With the divorce so recent and the shock of being contacted it's likely that any discussion with your mom is going to devolve into a crying mess.  While that can be helpful to get your feelings out, it's not entirely helpful to get your thoughts straight.  So I guess I'd say what do you want to do first?  Vent or figure out how you deal with this?  Maybe a close friend would be a better choice.

Answer 6

Let your mom read it.  The ball will then be in her court on how to handle.