Traditional, Who pays for the wedding?

Question

I heard that The brides dad pays for the wedding.

But i wanted to get the truth.

Who pays for what?

Answer 1

-- Traditionally --

The brides parents pay for the wedding.

The grooms parents pay for the honeymoon.

In my case me and my fiance ended up paying for both... It was our choice.

Then we got loads of cash from our families as our wedding present.

Congrats!

Answer 2

Here is an article about just this topic, breaking down who traditionally pays for what at a wedding.

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-plann...

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-plann...

Answer 3

In the olden days, the bride's family (father was usually the breadwinner) paid for the ceremony and reception, while the groom's family (again, father makes the money) paid for the rehearsal dinner.

However, this is no longer the case. More and more couples pay for the own weddings, perhaps with contributions from the parents that are not earmarked for any particular thing. All the money just goes in one account and the bills are paid from there.

Answer 4

generally the bride's mom and dad pay for most everything but the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon, which the groom's family is supposed to pay for.  but depending on how old you are, you'll probably pay for everything yourself.  maybe your parents will give you a couple grand as a wedding gift so you can put it toward the wedding but if you're over 25, count on paying for it yourself.

Answer 5

Traditionally the bride's parent's pay for the wedding.

The groom's parents pay for the bride's wedding gown.

Answer 6

The brides family pays.The grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner

Answer 7

traditionally the brides father pays for the wedding. This dates back to a different time though. The theory behind it is that the man will have to support the woman after marriage and it's like a bribe by the father of the bride to get the child out of the house and out from under the financial responsibility of raising the daughter/wife to be. Today however, women support themselves and a lot of marriages are paid for by both parties.

Answer 8

traditionally the brides parents pay for the wedding. but these days the bride and groom usually pay for it and the parents all chip in. personally i'd rather pay for my own wedding because then u can really do what u and not have to worry about anyone else

Answer 9

The truth these days is the bride and groom pretty much pay for the majority of the wedding.  Traditionally, the brides parents paid for the wedding.  But in today's times, brides and grooms are getting married much later in life and should take on the cost themselves.

Answer 10

Hi.  "Back in the day" the bride's family paid for the wedding and reception and the groom's family paid for the rehearsal dinner and possibly the alcohol at the reception.

This, was a LONG TIME ago though.  Also, this was done as more of a social occasion for the parents of the bride (i.e., they invited most of the guests.)

Anyway, in today's world, it is the bride and groom that pay for the wedding, reception and honeymoon.  This is because many couples have already lived together for a while and have established careers.  It's also because there are so many single parents now that it is not right or fair to put all the pressure on one individual to pay for a wedding.

Now....sometimes the parents DO want to contribute and/or pay for everything!  That is great!  It's a bonus.  But, it is certainly not to be considered an obligation.

Once you tell your parents that you are engaged, then wait to see if they offer any monetary donation.  That is all you can do.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Traditionally, brides parents,

just so you know, you are going to get a lot of flack about this, i asked the same question and got ripped a new one!

Answer 12

Traditionally, the brides father pays.  However, this is not typical anymore since many couples are getting married later in life and can contribute to their own wedding.  

In my case, we paid for everything except an intimate rehearsal dinner and the sunday brunch.

Answer 13

I think now a days the bride and groom pay for it and just pray that the parents help out somewhere down the line of planing. just got married not even 2 weeks ago, and that is what my husband said too. but i feel like it is are day so we should handle it. besides their is alot of hate between me and my dad and i don't want anything from him. not only that but my step dad just lost his job so i couldn't expect him and my mom to pay for much, so told my husband to be that i didn't want my parents to pay so neither should his, but everyone did their part on their own.

Answer 14

*Traditionally* the bride's parents pay for everything except the rehearsal dinner. The groom's parents are expected to pay for that. The bride is expected to buy her husband's wedding band, and he buys hers.

However, nowadays, tradition is out the window. What with so much premarital cohabitation (joint money) and so many divorced/blended families, it can be a sticky situation to decide who pays for what.

To avoid any mess, my husband and I decided to pay for our own wedding and we budgeted what we could afford. We were fortunate that we were both working, and saved enough money to put on a nice affair without going overboard. Throughout the process different members of our families OFFERED to pay for different things. It was nice, but not expected. We ended up saving a lot of the money we had budgeted for our wedding. My mom went dress shopping with me and offered to pay for my dress (veil, headpiece, alterations and all). She also went flower shopping with me and offered to pay for the flowers. My father in law DID pickup the tab for the rehearsal dinner, and my husband's family go together and paid for our honeymoon, and my dad gave us a $2500 wedding gift to help defray some of the costs.

The decision is totally up to you, but for me somehow I just did not feel right expecting, and asking, for my parents to shell out all that money just so I could throw a big party. My husband was of the same mindset, so i didn't have to convince him that my parents should not have to pay for everything.