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Traditionalist men...?

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I've always wanted a traditionalist man, it's the type I've sought past and present however I also want a man who is kind, respects, loves and has time for me. Is this an unreasonable pursuit?

Of course no two men are alike but so far I've not had any success.

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The problem is...the men who wish to own a woman, the dominate abusers also claim the traditionalist side.

is it possible sure......but be careful.

you need a man who claims traditionalist but thinks feminist or equality...he has to value you for more then "market value" worth.

He needs to respect you as a person, value your thoughts and beliefs, be attracted to you in all ways not just looks.

You might want a traditionalist relationship...but your still not property.
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Good luck.
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Men that are kind, respectful, loving, and have time for you aren't traditional. They are mentally healthy. They have been raised in a stable household. The baby boom generation was the beginning of there being a mass number of neurotics.

"Recent dramatic social changes, especially with respect to gender roles ....many traditional men have made a number of maladaptations, and they are often misogynistic, violent, alcoholic, sexist, and resistant to therapy. In short, they are the therapist's worst nightmare. They are also depressed, lonely, disaffected, misunderstood, vilified, and badly in need of therapy. The problem: therapists are ill equipped to deal with traditional men who are disinclined to be treated." http://www.psychservices.psychiatryonlin...
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It is hard to find the right balance in a man. They are either uber traditional to the point that you are relegated and ignored for being female, or uber liberal where you are not left feeling special or womanly as it is a mere 'societal construct'.
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No this is not impossible. I am going out with a traditional guy and he is respecting, loves and does have time and with tradition he does things that makes it non-traditional with helping around and doing things himself. So no it is not impossible...just depends on the culture they have been raised in and the type of morals they have been taught.
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Some men may use traditionalism as a cover for abuse and control, but a genuinely traditional man will understand that respect and protection for women goes along with the authority she gives him. Men and women still have equal worth, but it's recognised that we're different.

It can take a while to find the partner who's right for us, but loving, traditional men are out there! :)
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The love and respect part is not a problem, but if you want a guy to support you , you'll need to cut him some slack with regard to the hours he works.
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If you are having trouble finding the kind of guy you are looking for maybe you should be looking in a different place. Traditional values are usually held by church going people. Have you tried attending a church?
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Thats what I have and I Thank God every day that I have him.

He would feel a complete failure as a Man and a Husband if he could not support me and the kids, even me talking about a part time job makes him feel horrible.

He orders my dinner for me at restaurants (after asking me what I wanted of course) and always baffles the waitress's that I sit there smiling, just happy that he remembers what I want so well.

His whole life is around his family I have his love, respect, devotion and faithfulness.

Of course I give the same back making for a peaceful and very happy home.

edit: to Ryan my husband is who is he because he want's to be, he was not raised in a great home but was abused in any way you can imagine,foster's home and abandoned.

His painful childhood made him want to be a better adult, one who really appreciates a nice a loving home.
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I don't think it's unreasonable. Many men will be pleased to find a woman comfortable in her femininity. And yes, you can have it all!

Tip: If you stop looking, he'll find you! Guys can sense a woman with marrying on her mind! So relax!

I pray it goes well for you!
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Define traditionalist man please.

I know I want a man's man. The kind of man who will be happy with a wife, house and children without the existential nonsense that some men carry today. Yet, I want him to be open-minded, the kind who won't disown his son for being g*y. I want him to have his ego in check, especially if I make more money than him. I want him to be assertive, yet flexible and I want him to be confident.

Is that traditional?
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My man is a traditional man! I love him to death!

It's is easier to find a tradition man than to find a traditional woman.
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no hala... it's not unreasonable. keep looking, you'll find just what you need. but don't settle, mk?
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No, of course not. I don't think being traditionalist and being kind, respectful etc are at all incompatible. There are plenty of non-traditional men who are conspicuously lacking in those qualities (I read about them all the time over on Marriage and Divorce).

Keep perservering, I am sure you will find one in time.

P.S. I absolutely adore Stephanie Plum, I love her spirit and her perseverence in being a bounty hunter in spite of everything.
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Depends on how you are describing a traditionalist,for to me a traditionalist is a person with cares for others,is honorable,loving,caring,and understanding,believes in morals and ethics,is kind and respectful,is a leader of responsibility's,and stands by these rule,his code of honor,for this is how I view myself and others like me,and I am a Baptist,with a big loving heart..

So you must be looking in the wrong places,or at the wrong type of guy you think is a traditionalist.For a guy that is a traditionalist,is usually looking for a traditionalist woman,and to me,to find a woman with these qualities is hard to find now days..
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Are you involved with a church?  You may have better luck there with conservsative types.

The qualities you desire are not unique to "traditionalist" men, you know.  You're actually describing a mature individual.  They're around.  Try broadening your circle of experiences.

Never lose sight of your goal or compromise your standards.  You WILL find the man of your dreams who will indeed cherish you as you deserve to be.

BTW, how was your spa weekend?  I've just finished my first Stephanie Plum novel and I didn't like her.
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It took me 40 years, and had to travel 1252 miles, but I found him! In truth, though, I didn't know thats what I wanted in a man until I met him. And now, I can confidently say that he's the only kinda guy for me and the woman I've grown into...
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We're out there. Flip the question... Where can a Traditionalist Man find a traditionalist woman? Thats the circle that you need to be traveling in. If you're in a small town, your options are going to be limited. And yes, we can smell the marriage minded woman a mile away. If you want some further ideas, you know you can email me.
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My husband is very traditional. Hes kind respectful, KNOWS its his job to provide for HIS family, and treats my like a queen and loves our children, but you have to reciprocate with traditional values too.

And would tell you just because some one doesn't fit the stereotypical "look" of traditional doesn't mean they aren't. I'm covered in tats(not quite Donna Reed) and am happy to let my husband be the head of the house.
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