Tragic story.. dont know what to do?

Question

My sister, Maria, and her boyfriend, Danny, of 4 years would travel all over the world to places such as peru columbia italy sicily Malaysia etc. They are completely in love and can be together day in and day out and never get sick of each other or want space or nething. Danny decided to go to India .. He obviously told Maria to go but they hear it was a bad place for women to go bc the men there harass them very badly. So maria said no.. danny begged her to go but she refused. So danny wasnt going to go long. He was only gonna go for like 20 days or so but then 2 of his guys friends were gonna go wit so he extended the trip to a month and a week. Then these 2 guys ditched him and he ended up going by himself. so when he got there he was like maria i can still get u a ticket u should come blah blah blah.. she said no.. soo they kept in contact as much as possible throughout the trip. He called when he got to a phone and they emailed. The last time he called it was Monday aug 11th. he said he was running low on money and he was gonna take some out of his bank accounts. maria didnt hear from him for the next 4 days. But it wasnt him she heard from. Early friday morning we got a phone call to the house. I went downstairs bc i heard someone crying. It was Maria. Danny's mom had called bc the counsel of india or something called them and told them that they found Danny's laying dead on the floor of his hotel room. They wouldnt give us much answers. Maria was completely devestated. no that doesnt even describe how terrible it was. Anyways, they said that they were gonna send the body back by monday. Then the next day they called and told danny;s family that they already cremated the body.. without our permission! Something is going on there. There had to be foul play. They say they dont knwo what happened to danny. and that the autopsy came back unconclusive. This is just ridiculous! I dont knwo what to do. Everytime I love at Maria my heart breaks. They were going to get married. They had so much planned for the two of them. She never went to college. Danny was planning on taking care of them both. IT was just a complete love story. They were so true and real and I just dont know what to do. She had so many problems b4 danny.. with drugs and depression and suicide attempts. And then once her and danny started goin on she was soo happy bc he made her happy. He treated her right and made her just love life again. he was her angel from heaven but now he was taken away.. and I dont know what to do to make this btr for her. I cant imagine how she is feeling. And i dont want her to do nething stupid.... help

Answer 1

Continue to be the loving/caring sister that you are

and be there for her whenever she needs to talk!

Time heals, but it may take awhile!

Answer 2

It's still early, so allow her to grieve and mourn.  The most important thing is to be there for her, and try to get as much people as you can around her.  Don't feel like you have to not bring Danny up, or not talk about Danny, because it's better to talk about him openly so she doesn't feel like she has to hide her feelings.  They were together a long time, and it's going to be a long time (maybe 2 years) before she's okay to even start dating other guys.

Once she gets out of the initial grieving process, she's going to need to get her own life together.  After maybe a couple of months, or when she's ready to start talking about it, you should help her figure out how to get into school or where to apply for jobs

Answer 3

O Romeo, Romeo! wherefore art thou Romeo. And your question is?

Answer 4

I am soooooooooooo sorry.  Something definitely went wrong. and he is already GONE...no nothing... poor Maria.... Maria is in my prayers and of course his family.... since it's out of the US, I just don't know what she can do.  I would suggest if you have any Indian contacts to get it in the news somehow there....this makes no sense that a life was taken and the body is already cremated.  This is HORRIBLE.