Transsexual relationship help?

Question

Okay, so there's a transgirl (i.e, she was born male) who I really like a lot. I wouldn't mind a fairly committed relationship with her. The problem is, it somehow doesn't feel right. I'm fairly convinced I'm bisexual - although I've never had a g*y relationship I've definitely had some very g*y thoughts and quite a few g*y crushes. I've got the sad feeling that the reason I'm afraid of a relationship is some kind of lingering transphobic thing going on in my mind - I've heard trannies made fun of enough that I've got a mental block, kind of thing. I want a relationship, though - can anyone give me some advice in getting over my stupid prejudices? Thanks!

Answer 1

With most trans-women, all you need to do is treat them with respect for who they are, treat them like you would treat any other girl/woman.

The most difficult part is that you’ll have to become and trans advocate, defending yourself and her from the ridicule which you spoke of.

I’ve never personally encountered this issue but have feared that people I’ve dated would perhaps have too, and I have spoken to others who have dated other trans women, and would report that they had lost friends because of who they were dating..

The word of advice, is that if someone choose not to be your friend because of who you’re dating then that person was never your friend to begin with and isn’t worthy of your friendship.

And don’t be fooled, assuming you’re a guy, your not g*y for liking and being attracted to a trans woman. As to if she has or uses her male gentiles, is very personal, and independent of the trans-woman. However most Pre-operative trans women do not like anything to do with using their “male” gentiles, and can not do much with them after a period of hormone replacement therapy.

Otherwise, I wish you luck, I believe that if there’s a serious relationship, that you’ll have the ability to experience a very wonderful and unique experience, one which you may never want to loose.

Answer 2

How well do you know her? Talk with her, or talk with her more often. That should help, and anyway, she can probably offer better advice than anyone here.