Trouble having a o****m?

Question

Back in march i had s*x for the first time (im 18) and i use to be a heavy watcher of p**n and use to m********e a lot to it, i still do but I'm stopping, I was wondering if all that p**n watching would have an affect on it. because when me and my girlfriend had s*x all 3 times i did not o****m and now when we have phone s*x (shes in college in a different state) i cant o****m doing it myself at all, what can i do to help myself? and to help her mostly to feel good about herself knowing she can get me off, cause i am sure that's not good for the self esteem any help would be great I'm concerned

Answer 1

yes, are you turned on, sometimes p**n can numb you becuase its so

fake it takes more to turn you on, probably though you were just nervous

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Answer 2

I was with a guy that when we first started having s*x he seemed to have a problem getting off when we had s*x.  But I helped him relax and found what tripped his trigger.  I found that when I talked dirty to him and took control or was the aggressor and we used syrup to make our body parts taste good he became relaxed and having an o****m was not a problem any longer.  Problem solved, you need to find your trigger, have her talk dirty to you while you having s*x or have her slap you around a little.....jk relax the more you stress the more likely it will make the problem worse

Answer 3

Yeah, try not to e********e for a few days then have s*x.

Also it helps with your girlfriends rubs you nipples whiles you have intercourse with her in missionary position (you on top obviously).

This will help stimulate you.

Also stop watching p**n -_-" especially when you have a girlfriend.

I also try to save up for my girl friend so i can *** for her.  

Answer 4

That's because you both suck at s*x.

Practice makes perfect.

Answer 5

you are addected to p**n

be carefull

Answer 6

Dude, you really need to open your eyes and wake up.

p**n is very destructive.  Now I know that, in today's modern times, p**n is everywhere and so many people are getting off on it, but you yourself are witnessing the long-term effects of p**n.

p**n objectifies s*x between people.  It reduces what should be an intimate form of love, sharing and communication to a game...a joyride...a quest for purely physical pleasure.

People who watch p**n...but I'll stick with guys for this thread...guys who watch p**n have no respect for women.  They see women as objects solely for their immediate physical pleasure.

But a relationship is about so many other things.  It's about caring, sharing, trusting, sacrifice and so many other things.  How can a man have a true relationship with a woman if he really doesn't respect and/or value women?  He can't.  

This is why you are having your problems, dude.  You have confused yourself.  You are exploiting women, and dis-respecting them.

Answer 7

My bf couldn't o****m the first couple of times we had s*x. I told him to stop masturbating for awhile. He did. Since he had all that c** built up inside of him he was able to o****m.

Answer 8

You should consult the link given below.

But also, it may just be the anxiety/excitement of having s*x and all that good stuff. Which should decrease as you get more experienced.

Answer 9

Stop watching p**n keep clear of it and just think about her and making her happy if you love her. Maybe you masturbated to much when you were young and caused damage to your p****r.