I have been married to my husband for two years. We have a good marriage. Two children, we are happy. The problem occurs when we do anything involving his side of the family. We let our children stay over there for four days. Even though we do not like their lifestyle, we still feel as though they deserve to see their grandchildren. The problem occurs when it is time for our children to come home.
His mother NEVER wants to bring the children back. She always has some excuse or reason (first it was car trouble) for not bring my boys home on time. (I know she loves them but so does my side of the family.) Now that she has a new car, she still doesn't want to bring them home when we ask. When I call her, she tells me something completely different than what my husband told me (like dropping them off on Thursday vs Saturday). A blold faced lie. This causes a rift between my husband and I and I am tired of it. That's what we fight about.
The time she did bring them home, she didn't leave the car and we had to go outside to get our kids. (She isn't old or handicapped by the way. Healthy). She calls me and is friendly to me but when her younger son is around her, she treats me differently. I am treated like a stranger in the street. I get the one word responses and she becomes distant with me b/c she says she doesn't want to make her son jelous?!? What? How old are we?
I tried to be nice to my brother-in-law but he is grown and I don't have time for a "diva". I don't care for outburst and conversations all about him and his dating scene. Plus he interrupts people when they talk to e/o which is a pet peeve of mine. He is too dramatic for my taste.
We all have had a history with e/o and I know I can't ignore them. I need to know what to do to attempt to have a piece of mind.
And I don't cling to her, I have my own mother and I love my relationship with my mom.
I'm at my wits end trying to be civil while being lied to. She has her good days and her bad days. She can be like a second mother to me at times but when she lies and does things like this, I get beyond pissed. Is she being phony with me? Sometimes I think about all of the friendships I had to change and friendships I have lost to what deal with this? My husband is my husband but I think about the sacrifices I have made to deal with these inlaws. Is this as good as it will get? I need some advice from someone looking from the outside. Opinions please!
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