Troublemaker step mother?

Question

We have a 7 month old and live about 4 hours from our parents. My parents are divorced and we have to divide our time between all the family and friends every trip home. This gets tiresome. The last time we came I was in a wedding and we were to stay with my husband's parents and they were to watch our baby. The day before we came my husband's mother had to go to the hospital for a minor emergency and so we stayed with my mother. My step mother saw my husband's mother in the hospital and found out we were in town. I had already told my dad but I don't know if he remembered. I did not tell him we'd be seeing him and told him we were staying with my husband's family. I called him after the wedding and asked if he wanted us to come over to say hello before we were leaving and he was cold to me and said they had plans. I feel his wife must have came home and made a big deal about us being there and not coming over and being at my mom's. This has happened before and I am so sick of it. I just want to tell them both off because we got to my moms late after the rehearsal and the wedding took up the entire weekend. This woman is using my baby to cause trouble between me and my father. How do I deal with this c**p!?

Answer 1

Stop bending over backwards to make everyone happy.  Your a mom now, you dont have time for their games.  Your dad and step mom are gorwn adults, they have to know that logically, its hard for you to divide up your time.  Id back off and let them change thier ways or stick to phone calls only.  Just b/c they are upset dosen mean you need to fix the problem.  They are all being childish.

Answer 2

Just communicate with your father and tell him how you feel.  Tell him about how the week end had changed since your mother n law had to go to the hospital.  

Ask him what his wife told him that being his daughter you have a right to know what is being said about you.  Tell him that he is the only father you will ever have and that you love him and you want your baby to spend as much time as possible with him.  Blessings!  

Answer 3

talk to your dad about the specific situation that you mentioned here and ask if he was upset and probe him to find out if it came from his wife. if the problem stems from her (which it sounds like it does) then tell him that you don't appreciate her trying to always make trouble and that this is just one example of her meddling.