True/False: Parents are the reason why kids dont succeed in life.

Question

Because the parent doesnt want their kid succeed in something that the parent has not. And by holding them back so that they stay low and depressed like the parent? A jealous insecure parent?

Can this really be true?

For example I wanted to do so much when I was an adolecent and my parents could not provide for me because of financial reasons. All my life ive never had any kind of support from my parents. And when ever something good happens to me, I feel a sense of an envious or like hidden jealousy vibe. And they never congradulate me. I need to know so that i can stop feeling like a failure, and if its me, where am i getting this failure feeling from? Do I get it from them? Am I wrong or right?

Answer 1

you learn from your environment, if the parents raise you up in a succesfull enviroment and send you to a good school most likley you will be influenced to do well and have a higher chance in succeeding.. the reason why kids in private schools do so well is because everyone around them is doing well which influences them to do well too.

Answer 2

this is true my parents are holding me back too but i understand that its not there falt (most of the time)

Answer 3

most parents want there children to succeed and i don't know about your parents i would have to know them. but i noticed that you mentioned that they could not provide for you because of financial reasons , could it be that you wanted more then they could afford ? maybe you resent them for that. if they couldn't afford what you wanted did you go out and get a part time /summer job to pay for the things you wanted? but maybe your right if your parents didn't have much money, bills they had trouble paying and the stress of raising kids could have put them in a state of depression that they didn't support you as much as they should have. the importent thing is that you don't fall in the same line as you feel they did. pick your self up do the best you can even if you don't get the congradulation or pat on the back they you should get for something well done. and make sure when or if you have kids you give them all the support you can.

Answer 4

its half true

Answer 5

False.

Kids that don't succeed, usually have low self-esteem.

They can get a esteem boost from good and successful people at church,  a relative, their scout master, or a caring next door neighbor.   A good mentor, from any source, can turn a young person onto the right path.

^j^

Answer 6

We cannot blame others for either our successes or our failures.  There have been children to grow up with no parents in an orphanage that have been very successful, there have been blind people that learned to play the piano and sing and became very successful.  There have been people without any education become millionaires and very successful.

I have also seen children that came from very wealthy people grow up to be dope addicts and homeless.   I have seen the little rich kids grow up to be lazy and alcoholics.

Parents can do to much for their children and some children get to much praise that when they are older, they can't do anything without being praised for it.  Their lives become a total mess and they become failures.

I know your parents are proud of any accomplishments that you achieve.  Why do you think your own mother and father would be envious or jealous of you?  You are their child not their rivalry.  They are not competing against you.  

Your parents could not provide you with everything you wanted growing up because they could not afford it.  You poor thing.  Did or do you think everyone was rich and got everything they wanted but you?

Do you think every child got all the support they wanted except you?

Wake up and smell the roses.  We all were not little rich kids growing up as a matter of fact, most kids are not.  

If you fail in life, is it your parents you want to blame for it instead of yourself?  Do you need a scape goat?  

I know I'm being pretty tough on you but what you lived through is just life, just like everyone else.

Are you going to be more successful than you parents were so you can give your children everything they want?  If so, don't blame anyone else or let anyone else take the credit for either you failure or your success.

Good luck!

Answer 7

False.

Studies done using identical twins raised in the same family, show that peers (the groups you hang out with) have more to do with personality than any other factor.  So parental influence and genetics have much less to do with this than your own interpretation of how others look at you.  Do you have supportive friends? Are you mostly around people who disapprove of you?  You can do anything, become anything, if you are willing to do the work and make the sacrifices.  Self awareness is the first step.  Good luck.

Answer 8

I think you are right and wrong.

Some people are successful or unsuccessful due to their parents.. Then there are kids that do fine regardless of how screwed up their parents are.

A guy I was seeing in college was really great at songwriting.  He had an opportunity to go to New York to work for a big Record Label out there.  His parents (as old fashioned as they were) forbade him to go.  Fast forward some years later, he is working at a factory in Des Moines, Iowa.  I can't imagine what his life would be like if he took that opportunity in New York.  Parents can be so apprehensive about things that they hinder you from acheiving your dreams.

Answer 9

False.

I am sorry if your parents do not support or encourage you. That is certainly a loss.

The reality is that growing up means accepting responsibility for YOURSELF.  Not in a harsh way.. but to know that you ultimately make all your own choices, despite what anyone else may do, or may not do. You MAY be allowing them to make you feel like a failure.. the question is.. do you have to continue allowing it? No.  It isn't easy.. but you can choose that what you feel about you, is your option.

If anything.. my view is that the kids who fail the most.. are those who expect someone else to "do" it all for them, including how they feel.

Whatever it is that they feel, wrong or right, is their issue. Let it go, and depend on your own sense of right, to free yourself.  

Answer 10

Maybe it's just history repeating itself, perhaps your parents were never encouraged by their own parents & they do the same to you, thinking that its normal, when in actual fact it isn't.

  Most parents, myself included, want the best for their children. They strive to give their children what they themselves might have missed out on. I encourage my children, as I'm sure most other parents do, to simple do their best in whatever they choose to try.

You shouldn't feel that you are a failure, because you aren't. If your parents do not or did not encourage you in anyway to strive to do the best you can, or give you any recognition for your achievements, then for that I am sorry.

Perhaps if you have children in the future, you can be the one to break the cycle. You know what it feels like to be treated in such a way, so with your children, perhaps you will not make the same mistakes as your parents have with you.

Good Luck. X :-)  

Answer 11

on a case to case basis. every human can make something of themselves no matter how bad the parent

Answer 12

True and False, here's why:

True because each one of us is a slave to our genetic makeup - it decides for us whether we like it or not.

False because each one of us has the ability to change who we are at any given instant, thus starting completely anew.

Is the glass half empty or half full?

You decide.  

Answer 13

False.This is coming from a mom of two sons and I hope that they don't think that I held them back.My husband a I both came from poor families that didn't give us any help when we where growing up and we did just fine with our kids. you see the thing you must do is not blame the parents .you must go out there and pull yourself up and do it on your own and then you learn from your parents mistakes and make a better life for yourself.I'm sure that my sons learned mistakes that we made and will be better off for it as they will learn from them and then do better with their children

Answer 14

well no.. my parents have always gone to all limits to support me... and i love them respect them completely... infact i consider myself goo only because of them...

Answer 15

False.

Its the kids excuses that prevent him/her from succeeding

True

A good environment can help.

So it can work both ways

Answer 16

False...People are responsible for how they personally are in life...Just because lets say someone was raised in a poor family, they should see that they need to do more to get themselves ahead.  Blaming who you have become in life on a parent or someone else is not taking responsibility for your own self.  Dwelling on what was and living life in the past and thinking that's all your worth is no ones elses fault but your own...You are responsible for who you are and what you become in life.

Answer 17

some kids grow up and let the mistakes there parents made ruin them and others look at the past and decided that they dont want to be like them and tey do great things.

Answer 18

That could be true for your parents but not for every family.