True love or not.. soulmates and all that

Question

okay so i was thinking today after reading a few things and watched a movie , do you think that this concept of true love and soul mates, all that jazz ..is just merely an illusion because people that are looking for this one true love to spend entirety with find him/her then get divorced then they date and say they have found the real one this time .

so basically im saying do people believe they have found their soul mate because they are looking and really want this to happen to them selves so they take any relationship that appears good and marries just because they trick their mind into thinking "oh well ive been looking and hoping for someone so this must be him"?

Because if youve ever seen anyone that has a busy life and more concearned with other things and arent desperatly trying to find this person doesnt say oh,ive found the one im meant to be with

so i think ppl that are trying to look it doesnt happen but ppl that arent looking it will just happen (if there is such a thing as soulmates)

Answer 1

I do believe in the concept of soul mates.  However, I also believe people can have soul mates that they are not romantically married to.  I don't think just because you marry someone that they must be your soul mate.  I think this is what we learn, and believe in though.

I think that is what you are mentioning in your question.  But honestly, I think the problem is that people are looking for someone to marry, not their soul mate.  And if this current person is nice to them, and makes them feel special, and buys them nice gifts... hmmm he must be my soul mate.  

No, no, no.  A soul mate relationship between two people means to thoroughly know the person inside and out.  Each person must learn to trust each other, and be vulnerable to share everything, their hopes, dreams, fears, weaknesses, and their pain.  The two learn to communicate on a different level, and if it is a soul mate, you will form a mental, emotional, and spiritual attachment to the person, just because of who they are in your life.  As you see....  none of this involves or needs to have a physical or sexual side, because the two of you already share an emotional intimacy that surpasses any s*x any day.  

Most relationships with potential of marriage only base things on an outside world, and the essence and soul of the inside.  That is why so many people keep getting it wrong.  

Also, I am not sure that people who are not looking for their soul mate just wake up and there he is.  I believe finding a soul mate is a hard job. One that you have to put energy and effort into yourself, as well as the person who is your soul mate.  

Thanks for reading!

Answer 2

ooh you've thought about this haven't you!

I guess they're only your soul mate if you don't split up.

Answer 3

True love and soul mates sound great in romantic movies but life doesn't end in less than two hours and as such the true identity of people involved becomes clear as the day light. In my opinion to love someone for the rest of our life with the same intensity is almost impossible. The irony in that if we ourselves fail to remain the same how can we expect others to remain the same during the entire relationship. It's too much of asking at any rate.

Answer 4

"Soul Mates and Twin Flames" by Elizabeth Clare Prophet is about the best book on the subject.

Also worthwhile:

"When God Writes Your Love Story," Eric and Leslie Ludy,"

"Sexual Force or the Winged Dragon," O. M. Aivanhov,

and "For Men Only" and "For Women Only," Shaunti Feldhahn.