Trust issues, jealousy, GAD, depression help?

Question

okay so ive been reading up on all these things.... but im not sure if they apply to me or not... see i have this boyfriend ive been with him for over a year now... but a long time ago he cheated on me and then i forgave him but i dont think i ever really forgave him becuase im constantly thinking hes doing something or im afraid hes going to.. i get scared by the littlest things i dont like him to go anywhere i dont like him to talk to his friends (he used to do alot of drugs) im afraid he might fall back into that pattern which would lead to him not caring and doing whatever he wants (girls) i want to trust him i really do... but i just dont know how... i hate feeling like i cant... and i know there cant be a relationship without trust but i cant help but get this overwhelming feeling everytime our normal routine or pattern changes... i dont want to leave him and i dont want to be scared all the time that hes going to do something but even though what he did was so long ago i still get the feeling he might do it again... im scared and i dont wanna lose him just cuz my head keeps putting a guard up but i just dont want to be hurt again either what do i do???

Answer 1

You need to talk to him about these worries, and come to an agreement between you.  

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You really need to sit down with him or a relationship Counsellor and tell them your fears.  The thing is, yes i know how much he hurt you, but if he's constantly being nagged at that he can't do this, he can't do that, eventually he is going to walk away from you.  I know you don't want to be hurt again, but you are only going to cause it by continuously letting these feelings swamp you.

Wishing you all the best and hope things work out x