Trust issues - Again??????????

Question

I have been here before - Can i trust my husband? Around a year ago we ended up in an argument where i found out a few things from my husband, he had slept with another woman at the start of our relationship and also that he had taken drugs on 2 occasions. I thoght that we had gotten over this and until now i had put all this behind us.

However ov er the last few days these issues have come back. Firstly, he was shouting someone elses name in bed, not really a huge deal, but then i found out that he has been using internet p**n sites i don't have a problem with the p**n, until i found out that he had been downstairs using these when i was upstairs in bed. Why does he feel the need to do this? Am i not attractive to him anymore? I did try to have a discussion with him about it and tell him how i felt, he told me that not everything was about me and that he can't get IT from me whenever he wants. I am now left feeling that does it stop at p**n or has he cheated on me again to? I also feel that i am not what he wants and that i have to make up for this some how. Why do i feel like the one who has to apologize for telling him how it makes me feel?

Answer 1

once a cheater, always a cheater.  he has no morals or character.  i'd suggest counseling.

Answer 2

You will have to be more specific about his behaviour. Men generally tend to become homosexual after a few years of marriage. He has certainly developed deviant tendencies.

You can try the following

1. Get rid of your jungle below and see if his eyes light up. The "bare pudenda" turn-on is an indication that he is a latent pedophile and you should inform the authorities.

2. Try to do it doggy-style. If he likes this a lot, then he is surely turning homosexual. I recommend an exorcism.

You will be in my prayers tonight

Answer 3

First of all, you shouldn't feel like you have to apologize for something he's trying to blame you for. He needs to grow up and quit being a self-centered, selfish pig. He also needs to learn and understand what self-control is and practice it. If he's more worried about getting his nut's off than how you feel, then you need to consider leaving him. Having s*x and making love to your wife is a privilege. You should be concerned about him visiting p**n sites on the web and him spending so much time in the wack shack in the basement. He's hiding something in the first place by having his selfish enjoyment downstairs without you. It really sounds to me like he's very mentally sick and doesn't want to deal with his problems and finds it easier to blame you instead. You might be married to a pervert, sicko, child molester who is hiding **** from you and the rest of the world by being in the basement. It doesn't look good at all from what you've wrote and if I were you I would ask him to stop what's he's doing and explain why you feel this way. If he doesn't stop and still persists, file for divorce and get out of the marriage.