Try giving me advise on this situation...?

Question

Okay here's the deal..

Is he really a friend? The only reason we are tight is because we didn't do too well in our first year in university and I blame him as he wanted to 'study' togeather during exam time and that didn't go too well. Ever since then,, we got real tight and now school is approaching again and he's still all about fun and games even though we messed up in our first year studies...Which really irratates me. Like I don't know, I really want my degree bad and asap whereas this dude doesn't care and doesn't show it. Like I've been studinyg in the summer even though I don't have classes because I want it bad you know. But this dude is just slowing me down really, like he keeps telling me not to worry about my studies and that I should chill and hang out more rather than study....And even though we messed up first year he still has his ideas such as fooling around. I don't want him to bring me mroe down and not study, I want to excel and he's just making me go the opposite. What should I do before it's too late and I mess up again in university because of this dude...? He's a kool guy don't get me wrong I still wanna be friends but what do I tell him? Not too be mean or anything but like what should I do?

Answer 1

I had many friends and probably lost just about all of them. My friends and I are totaly different. I had 2 best friends in NY and we are totaly different. They are into alcohol and drugs and I am alcohol free and drug free and for me being like this I allmost totaly lost them as friends.

It is hard being alone but it is for my own good. You may end up losing him as a friend but just tell him if we keep doing this we wont be anywheres in life. I can understand fooling around like firecrackers in the facilities or on ant hills. Now firecrackers on anthills is fun. Have fun but try to make it not involving school.  

Answer 2

you can still be friends but don't let it get to the point where your fooling around all the time and your grades drop it sounds like your want to move forward in life which is understandable maybe let him know your really are serious about getting your degree and if he doesn't get it spend less time with him