Trying hard to change!?!?

Question

I have felt depressed for a long time now, and although I have a lot of nice things,friends, and have just passed a test to get into my local grammar school, you would expect me to be over the moon! I just can't stop feeling so low. I argue the whole time with my mum and dad and nothing ever seems right. I have had counselling before for anxiety, but it is too expensive and my mum and dad can't keep paying for it. Sometimes I wish I wasn't born and think to myself 'I want to kill myself, I just want to get out of all this'. I have not had anything major happen to me that would make me feel like this, so I am just so confused about why I do feel like this. Apart from breakups with friends and a few other petty things, there is nothing that is majorly awful.I don't understand it. What can I do to change? I really need your help! thanks.

Answer 1

There is a type of depression that has nothing to do with circumstances.  Clinical depression can be inherited.  You may have that and if you do you should see a psychiatrist before it's too late.

Answer 2

Awwww. Lifes Hard sometimes , When your older maybe Go Away from where you life and travel you can meet all sorts of nice people.  Now. just think postitve lots of people feel like you and some worse trust me. Dont end your life cause you have a whole lifetime to find a path to lead , try and dont argue with your parents they just want whats best for you, Go out together and spend sometime <3

You dont need to change your self just change your attitude to life

Good luck babe... x

Answer 3

hi, i knw exaclty hw u feel as i studied depression n anxiety. i knw its really hard to explin urself. just try to keep urself buzy. do stimulatiing activities, dnt ever think silly like u wnt to kill ur self or no1 likes u or cares 4 u cz deep dwn sum1 sumwhere duz!!! i sumtyms think my parents h8 me too n i feel like dieing but dts not the way out, ur giving up hope. b brave n stronger. think on the brighter side and b positive. think 10 steps ahead. think about ur future later on in life u might find a nice man to spend ur life with who should understand u an meet ur needs. i knw that counselling and stuff r very expensive, u dnt really need it as they dnt cure u but just try to help u. its good u asked this question on here as its a bit similar to counselling. just ignore ppl around u, pray to god and b positive concentrate on ur studies aim higher n become somthing. if u wish ur parents to understnd u n love u, try doing someting 4 them by sacrificing things. like dont argue just lisen 4rm 1 ear n let it out of the other 1.

i hope my answer helps u even if it is a bit. smile u no ur not alone. x*x

Answer 4

go back to your doctor and explain your feelings they should be able to help you, and if they don`t then try another doctor, you should not have to pay for counselling try to get a referral to some where else

Answer 5

Have you tried writing things down?  I felt like that when I was at school (still do sometimes) however no one knew, not even my parents.  One day I started writing things down in a notebook.  As simple as it sounds it did help, it was a way of getting things off my chest.

I wish I could give you a better answer but the truth is I am still trying to find one.  Just keep reminding yourself that even though things may seem too much today it should pass.  Its hard but hold onto the good to get you through the hard times and take comfort in the fact that despite how alone you may feel you are not.  There are many like you around, sad but true.

And most of all do not let those who tell you to snap out of it upset you.  Most have no idea what you are going through and it is their ignorance talking.  For myself I look at those ignorant ones as lucky, yes lucky coz they probably have no idea what you go through and more so have not watched someone they care about go through it either.

Just remember you are surviving and that makes you strong, much stronger than you may think.

Hang in there and don't give up, you are not alone

Answer 6

aww honey...you are much to precious to ever think of ending your life.  honestly...we all go through these feelings as teenagers & i promise you - as you get a little older...these bad times will just fade away & your life will be happy again - it's all part of growing up.  i think most of us have argued with our parents too ... so don't worry!

be strong darling & try to think positive!!  

Answer 7

First of all, do not feel guilty about your feelings, even though it might seem like life's going good for you sometimes you just cannot help how you feel. Are you in the UK? If so I'm pretty sure you can get free counselling if you're under 25, my local place is called YES (youth enquiry centre), they provide many services for young ppl inc counselling so find out if there's something similar in your area.

Have you been diagnosed with depression as well as the anxiety? My mum has both and we used to argue lots, but over time we've managed to understand each other, maybe your parents need further insight as to how you're feeling and what you're going through because they're probably quite confused as well. No one can completely undestand what you are going through unless they have gone through it themselves, but people can have a good understanding. Sometimes my mum feels low for "no reason" but now I understand that it's can be a chemical imbalance as well as circumstances so sometimes life seems good but she still feels low. Do not pay any attention to people who make you feel bad about feeling low for "no reason", there is always a reason, be it biochemical or circumstantial.

Another thing that has really helped my mum is simply talking about her feelings and worries. is there anyone close to you that you can have a chat when you're feeling a bit low? Bottling up things makes things 100 times worse. Also try and keep busy (sports, seeing friends), physical activity is great as it increases the "feel-good" chemicals. Also try and keep some time for yourself every week, where you can just read a good book, watch a DVD, pamper yourself etc.

All the best hon!

Answer 8

Get a life!

People have been through worst

Answer 9

I kinda have a friend like you.For sometime he kept on cutting himself.Me and my friends tried to help, yet with no real results.So i kinda learned the best person to help you, would be yourself.Surround yourself with people you are close with.Always have a shoulder to cry on.Coz' we can't always rely on ourselves, we might worsen the problem with "deep thinking".I've been there before and it kinda helps clarify things yet it also my worsen things.And if it helps, eat!chocolates and other comfort food may help.Personally, I'd rather be fat than sad.But be careful, too much food may cause you to be sad and may be another depressing topic.I hoped i help.Cheers!;)

Answer 10

Stop trying. Just change!

  Ever noticed how animals never do depression! :)

Nike logo: Just do it!

Answer 11

We all have the thought sometimes that 'we want to kill ourselves'. If you want to transform your life, get a new hobbies, spend more times with your friends having fun and look forward to your future. The idea of been happy is to have something to do, someone to love and something to look forward to. Use clary sage, jasmine, frankincense, geranium or neroli as essential oils, joss sticks or incense to cheer yourself up.