Ttc but feels like it isnt working.?

Question

For the past few months my husband and I have been TTC. The only problem is my period varies each month. Up until this year I use to get my period around the 12th or 16th every month. Recently I charted my period to be

April - 13th

May - NONE

June - 12th

July - 24th

August - 25th

So if my periods skip around how will i know the exact date I start to ovulate? I havent used a kit before but thinking of getting one for september. I try not thinking about getting pregnant sometimes because i get so stressed over it my husband thinks thats what stalls my body from doing things. Also my husband and I are causual cig. smokers. well he smokes more than me. would that effect anything on us? Also hes a casual drinker. Every other weekend or so he drinks a beer or liqour with his friend. Can that effect sperm also? Also the average time my husband and i have s*x [sry tmi!] a week is around 7-9 times a week is that also a good thing to do.

Any advice right now is very helpful =]

thanks

and babydust to everyone <3

Answer 1

Each month you could be releasing an egg on different cycle days. This is quite normal.

You definetely need to buy some ovulation sticks.  That will help you know when you ovulate.

Begin s*x once you see fertile mucus and begin the ovulation sticks.  Make sure you have s*x on the day of your LH surge.  After ovulation the fertile mucus begins to dry up.

7-9 times a week is lots of s*x.  So basically you have s*x every day and sometimes twice a day.  Maybe try every other day.  Sometimes too much ejaculation can reduce the amount of sperm, not giving enough time for it to replenish.

Beer is fine and some alcohol.  You need to enjoy yourselves too while TTC.  If you could both cut down on smoking some more, that would be a plus too.

Answer 2

dont give up hope..

but just for your info, smoking can kill sperms..

and alchohol can actually cause a big impact for both the sperms, eggs, and embryo

having s*x everyday its ok but if hubby has lowcount sperm, then u shd do it alternate days.

plus, have u tried charting your temperature? u can know when u ovulate for sure ;)

Answer 3

dont give up keep on trying  

Answer 4

At Walgreens I buy the Answer OPKs STRIPS, they are 20 for $20, and you can use them virtually the whole month long until you get a positive, I would start with that. As for BBT you dont &quot;have&#039; to do it while AF is present but I always start BBT CD 6-7 all the way through, and combined with the OPK&#039;s I have been able to actually pinpoint O. Hope this helps good luck.